Just Exactly When Are You Going to Get On With It?
By Gabriella Kortsch
You know what I mean with just exactly when are you going to get on with it: it means that you've been thinking about:
- Changing your job (leaving your job as a lawyer and becoming a landscape designer)
- Learning French well enough to spend a whole summer bicycling through France
- Leaving your marriage (it died long ago ... are you in it for financial or emotional security? For the kids? If it's dead you are not doing them a favor nor your spouse nor yourself by staying there)
- Taking up water color classes ... or scuba diving ... or piano
- Finding a new circle of friends that resonates more with ... well ... you!
- Writing that book
- Giving up complaining
- Taking enough time off from work to really explore Renaissance art in Italy
- Learning how to sail
- Going back to university to get your master's degree
- Figuring out how to reorganize your life so that you can move to Australia and find a job there
- Fill in the blank with your own whatever it is that you have been putting off
It's Been Nagging at You For a Long, Long Time
And you've been thinking about this forever ... it's not a New Year's Resolution that you thought you would take up this year, but it's something that has been there nagging at you for a long, long time.
And what I'd like to address a bit here, is the nagging. So here you are, with a little voice, let's call it, a little voice inside of you, that nags at you. What could that be? Do you really think it could be your mother's voice or your father's voice coming to you from your distant childhood, urging you on - nagging you on - to learn how to sail? Or to find that new circle of friends?
Or could it be your own inner guilty conscience? What else could be nagging at you?
It Excites You!
Before we answer that, let's look at another aspect of this. Isn't it also true that whenever you think about doing this thing, accomplishing this thing, being involved with this thing, there is a degree of excitement in you? There is something in you that resonates with this thing, connects with this thing, something that seems to quicken, to become more alive, whenever you take your thoughts over to this thing?
And then you feel the nagging, because you have not yet begun this thing that has formed part of your life so long, but that you have not given the attention it deserves. Hence the guilty conscience.
But way beyond the nagging is the excitement, the resonance, the feeling of connection, the quickening and the intense feeling of being alive somehow with regards to this thing.
It Makes You Feel Alive!
You are giving yourself so much information with this. You see, the feelings that arise ... the positive feelings that arise whenever you engage with the thought about this thing, are a kind of message from you to yourself, let's say from an inner core of yourself that you are not particularly well acquainted with to the outer self that you are much more aware of. And the message has to do with the fact that if you were to engage with this thing, this thing that you have been putting off for such a long time, if you were to engage with it, you would begin to experience some of that feeling of excitement much more often in your life, because it would be intimately connected with the thing that you would now actually be doing or fulfilling. And the feeling of excitement has to do with an inner core of knowledge, call it intuition, call it soul, call it what you will, that arises whenever you touch on or think about aspects that are meant to form part of your life. We might even say, aspects that could form part of your particular mission in this life.
Sailing? Mission in life? Giving up complaining? Mission in life? Look at it this way: who is to say that if you were to get involved in sailing, you would not meet up with someone who was to be instrumental in the future development of your life - professionally or personally? Or sail somewhere where you would find another branch of the tree that is your mission or purpose in life? And who is to say that if you were to give up complaining, your attitude to life would be so much more positive, that you would ipso facto be much more aware of possibilities, potentialities and opportunities that might bring you closer to that so-called mission. You just can't know. And that is why it is so important to listen to that little voice, especially if it is somehow accompanied by some feeling of excitement.
Rumi puts it beautifully: When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. So what can you do to start it now?
- No time?
- Don't know how?
- Can't figure out how you can finish such a big project?
- Think your audacity to imagine you could do something like that is ridiculous?
Annihilating the Saboteurs
Recognize that all those inner objections are saboteurs that are keeping you from something your deepest, most inner self is encouraging you to do. It is just as simple to give way to the objections and nay-sayers, as it is to give in to the little voice that is actually a sort of email from your soul. You've been receiving it most of your life, and you keep deleting it. Delete the negative thoughts instead. Give in to the urging, give in to the need you feel to do this thing. If you can't find the time, break down your entire day (Monday - Friday) and write down everything you habitually do. Figure out what can be shortened or eliminated and use that time to start your 'thing'. If you don't know how to start, go online and do some research. Or just start and see what happens. If you can imagine how you could ever finish such a big project, just start. One step at a time and all those steps will soon accumulate and will have taken you 1000 steps further on. And if you think your audacity to imagine you could do something like this is ridiculous, quelch the voice. Remember the saboteur and what that voice is keeping your from doing. Remember Edison, Columbus, Ford, Mandela, and all the rest of them. They went out against overwhelming odds and accomplished incredible feats. So can you. And remember to motivate yourself during the process. Remember to keep your energy high. Read inspiring passages, listen to inspiring speakers, and do it daily to keep yourself in a place where the saboteurs can't keep a foothold in your mind.
When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.
Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D. (Psychology), author of Rewiring the Soul, is a practicing psychotherapist who works with an international clientele in Marbella, Spain using an integral focus on body, mind and soul. She has published a newsletter in English and Spanish since 2004, facilitates monthly workshops and broadcast a weekly radio show both locally in Spain, as well as on the internet for seven years. Prior to her work in private practice she was Director of Sales & Marketing at several luxury beach properties in Spain and Mexico and was married to a diplomat. She has three sons.