When our family gets together we often play a card game called Sixty-Five. It's something we can all do together because it is easy, fun, and all ages can play.
This is a game in which each time a new hand is dealt there is a different wild card, which means you have to remember which number it is each time you look at your hand. Often someone will throw the wild card away saying, "It doesn't fit."
I used to run along a highway. Cars usually moved a bit to the side as they passed me, and I was always grateful for the courtesy that showed. One day two cars zipped down the highway one right after the other; neither moved to the side. The draft of the wind after they passed blew my hat off.
My first reaction was irritation. My second was one of awareness. From experience I know that two cars, going fast, one right after another, will cause a wind tunnel. I should have held onto my hat.
We decided that it was time to buy a couch for the family room.
After some searching we found the perfect couch, but it was backward from what we wanted. We explained to the salesman that we wanted the arms on the couch and lounge the opposite way that was being displayed in the showroom. After much drawing and explaining to him, the salesman wrote down which version of the couch we wanted and ordered the proper orientation.
We were excited when the couch arrived, until it was set up in the room, because it was the same orientation that was in the showroom. Obviously all the drawing and explaining didn't get across what we wanted. The delivery crew left the couch as a loaner so we could reorder the right orientation.
My first reaction, again, was a feeling of irritation until we looked again. We realized that the orientation of the couch that was delivered worked better than the one we had worked so hard to buy. All the other pieces of the room came together because the wrong couch was delivered.
Because we were willing to re-look at the situation, it turned out to better than the one we had tried so hard to make happen.
This is why intention is so important.
If our intention had been to be right, and make the salesman wrong, we would still be waiting to be comfortable in our family room. But, our intention was to make an open inviting space where everyone would feel welcome and comfortable. This intention allowed the filter of our current way of seeing things to widen, letting in more information, and allowing us to see that we already had the perfect couch.
In the card game, if the intention is to have all the cards in order, then it is easy to throw down the card that could win the hand. If the intention is to win the game, we will hold on to what is needed to accomplish this.
It was the intention of the drivers of the car to get somewhere, which may mean they never even saw me. If it was my intention to make them wrong for their intention, I would have only made myself miserable since they were long gone. Instead, my intention was to enjoy my run and to learn to keep my hat on my head.
When giving gifts it is wise to examine intentions before buying.
Is the intention to spend a lot of money? Is the intention to give the most expensive present? Is the intention to be original? Is the intention to let others know they are loved?
Deciding our intention first we can avoid being swept up into the worldview that spending money equates with satisfaction and love.
The same thing applies when receiving a gift. We often throw away a gift because it appears to not fit, or we haven't seen it for what it truly is.
We must be willing to look again. Not with the same personal or worldview that set up the situation, but with an open hearted willingness to know that a gift just might look different that we expected, and that in itself can be the greatest gift of all.
Beca developed an easy system to do this called The Shift and has been sharing how to use this system to expand lives, and bring people back to the Truth of themselves for over 40 years.
Beca and her husband Del Piper are constantly working to develop new ways to support and reach out to others. Much of what they have been developed can be found for free at their membership site Perception U.com. They also founded The Women’s Council with the intent of “strengthening the connection to yourself, to others, and to the Divine.”