Do you take a day off every week for R&R?
Some of the folks I've seen have the attitude that the world will fall apart if they take time off. They are afraid that their families won't function, their jobs won't produce, their friends will melt and their communities will dissipate! What is this all about? This is about getting so used to your routine, that you think that your routine is all there is AND therefore you forget to cross-train others to take on aspects of your roles.
But, did you ever stop and consider that you might be a better worker, parent, partner, friend and citizen if you took the time to replenish and rejuvenate? Did you also stop to consider that others might benefit from trying on the hats that you wear, even if only for a little while?
Knowing how to stop and how to relax is an effort for some of you. Some of you have spent your lives in the fast lane, and you're worried that you won't know how to drive slowly. I remember a radio interview when the host said, "I actually hate taking trips and hate taking time offI feel like I'm going crazy if I'm not working."
While it is wonderful to love your work (I'm obviously all for that), work isn't all there is. Remember that. Remember it before it is too late.
I love the saying, "On your death bed, no one is going to ask you why you didn't work harder and clock in more hours."
So, stop scaring yourself into thinking that you can't take a day off, for Pete's sake!
Just as you once trained for your job, you can train yourself to take time off and relax! You can train yourself to benefit from the contrast between work and play, between intensity and calm, between isolation and connection. Contrasts make you more aware of each side of dialectics; they make life more interesting and rich!
If you already are taking days of rest, then you understand their value. To those of you who do, I want to congratulate you! Continue to do this, as it will strengthen you upon your journey. It is a healthy and balanced approach to your life!
Pam Garcy, PhD is a Psychologist and Coach in Dallas, Texas. If you'd like a partner in reaching your goals and overcoming the obstacles that seem to stand in your way, please contact Dr. Pam for coaching at firstname.lastname@example.org. Dr. Garcy offers a special 10% coaching discount to all valued subscribers of Cultivate Life and to customers of Trans4mind.com. Dr. Pam's best-selling books - including the bestsellers The Power of Inner Guidance: Seven Steps to Tune In and Turn On and Wake Up Moments of Inspiration