Self-Esteem and True Power
By Annie Burnside, M.Ed.
To be passionate about the intricacies of our life without being attached to specific outcomes, while simultaneously living true within our own skin, is a sure sign of self-esteem and authentic power. When we attach to labels, narrow scopes and rigid perspectives, we give away our power to an external source slowly, but surely. With each need for a preferred singular outcome and the masks that we use to maneuver it, we lose a piece of our soul’s creative impetus always aimed at serving the highest good for all and resist the multi-faceted outcome, often hidden yet available. This is a life lesson that I have been working on continuously for the past few years, and one that I hope to offer my children to propel them forward towards a life whereby they can consciously access inner power and creative freedom.
Every individual matters as we seek to evolve the entire planet to a higher consciousness. Parents must participate fully by uncovering their own wounds and threads of resistance through inner work—meditation, counseling, anger processes, forgiveness exercises, healing modalities, twelve-step programs, solitude, journaling, gardening, bowling, exercising, dancing—WHATEVER it takes to open to your own infinite and true internal power source so that through parental leadership future generations learn to deal with “psychic debris” as it occurs rather than at a later date after much unnecessary damage has been done to self and others.
True power stems from allowing interior and exterior balance as the path to harmonic living. Teach and model for your children the subtle, yet highly beneficial balance of inner focus—contemplation, observation, reflection, receptivity and awe—with the outer focus of pro-activity and productivity. If we can teach our children to utilize this continual ebb and flow of their own energies, they will be able to become the powerful conscious creators that they are meant to be. This interior/exterior harmony, coupled with authentic living that bathes us in intoxicating freedom, gratitude and joy to be fully ourselves will change our world. Wars, morality laws and restrictions on personal freedom are simply band-aids to the issues of our day that no longer serve our species. The call now is to harness our own power and become increasingly comfortable in our own skin as we begin to see ourselves in a new light—powerful, eternal, intuitive, creative spiritual beings who flow with life rather than force life through rigid, outdated expectations and hidden agendas.
If we begin to create from both the heart and an inner knowing of who we really are as integral, powerful aspects of a divine whole so magnificent that we cannot fully wrap our minds around it, we become higher versions of ourselves, live up to our full potential and fulfill our soul’s intended mission. The time is NOW to snap out of a victim/blame mentality to take full responsibility for both our interior and external world and teach our children through our example to do the same. I encourage all parents to take the time to do the inner work that on some level we deeply understand must be faced. Resistance to personal truth and power no longer serves parents, children, or the world at large. The time is NOW first to discover our true personal power within and then to offer it passionately up and out to all…