When you set a goal that is consistent with your purpose and you develop a clear vision of your goal, you will probably feel very empowered.
Jenna visualized herself flying an airplane. She'd always wanted to learn how to fly.
This tends to be especially true when you develop an image of your goal as already achieved, and if this image includes emotion. Once you charge your image with emotional fortitude, it is likely that you will feel quite motivated to start taking action!
She imagined the feeling of soaring, gliding and floating. She imagined the color of the sky and the clouds as she looked through the cockpit window. She could envision the tops of homes and buildings, which looked like miniatures from her plane. She saw little cars driving on tiny highways. She felt exuberant, joyous and harmonious!.
It is precisely at this point that your inner guidance will be super-activated, and you will likely experience a flow of inspired thoughts. These thoughts, if healthy and rational, will lead you and guide you and push you as you work toward your goal.
The next day, Jenna was playfully baking cookies when a thought flashed into her head, as clear as day. "Call Claude." Claude was a friend from the past who'd taken flying lessons. She could ask Claude about the experience and learn about what her next step might be.
IF you work toward your goal, that is.....
It is important to act upon these inspired thoughts (assuming they are healthy and rational).
Jenna picked up the phone and had a great conversation with her old friend. She also got the phone number of Claude's flying instructor and learned more about what she could expect.
As you encounter that which you perceive as obstacles, you might want to run the other way! You might think that your goal is too lofty for you, or that you are not enough. Your insecurities will come to the surface.
She was just about to pick up the phone and call the flying instructor. For a moment, Jenna stopped herself. Why did she think she could do this? Besides, what if she crashed? She'd also have to save the money. And that meant no more extras. Her family would call her silly and childish. Her friends would say that she was just trying to get attention.
The healthiest thing to do here is to recognize that these insecurities are a part of most people's normal experience. Whenever you stretch beyond your comfort zone, these insecurities will emerge, just as your muscles feel uncomfortable when you are stretching beyond your normal range of motion.
In order for you to reach your goals, you will begin to see that stretching becomes important and at times, essential.
A lot of people run away from stretching beyond, and they don't want to take action because they fear discomfort or embarrassment. Dr. Albert Ellis wrote about discomfort anxiety and ego anxiety.
If living in this manner becomes a pattern of behavior, what psychologists call avoidance responses, then you will get comfortable "hiding." Contraction, rather than expansion, has been said to lead to unhappiness. Our natural tendency is toward growth, and growth requires expansion. Eleanor Roosevelt said that you must do that which you fear.
Jenna remembered her uncle, who had always wanted to be a singer. Although he had a great voice, he never pursued his dream. In fact, the more he avoided his desire to sing, the more he hid his talent. It was the strangest thing to Jenna, who loved it when she occasionally heard him sing. He could have used his voice to bring joy to so many, including himself. But, instead, he chose to run away from the work involved. When she asked him about it, he just said, "That's kid stuff, Jenna. I'm too old for that." Jenna noticed how a part of him seemed to sink as he said this, and she wondered whether part of his depression might have been due to him stopping himself from living fully.
In my experience, taking daily inspired actions toward your goals, however small those actions are, will help you to stretch more easily and fearlessly. Just as we would stretch our muscles only a little bit at a time (not too much all at once), we can stretch our behaviors a little at a time.
Jenna decided that it was time to grow! She chose to live a fully expressed life, so she called the instructor and she felt everything inside of her saying, "Yes!" Of course, Jenna continued to read her Cultivate Life! Magazine, surround herself with motivational people and reward herself. Each day, she checked in with her inner guidance and she took a little step. Sometimes reading, sometimes learning, sometimes trying, and often doing. Before she knew it, she was living her dream and flying high!.
Little by little, you can learn what it feels like to walk upon your path, if only you will allow it to be so!
Pam Garcy, PhD is a Psychologist and Coach in Dallas, Texas. If you'd like a partner in reaching your goals and overcoming the obstacles that seem to stand in your way, please contact Dr. Pam for coaching at email@example.com. Dr. Garcy offers a special 10% coaching discount to all valued subscribers of Cultivate Life and to customers of Trans4mind.com. Dr. Pam's best-selling books - including the bestsellers The Power of Inner Guidance: Seven Steps to Tune In and Turn On and Wake Up Moments of Inspiration