Did I Understand What You Said?
By Beca Lewis
Once I read two very funny stories representing the concept of “Mondegreen” which is the idea of mixing up words so that what is said is not what is heard. When these word mix-ups are funny, we laugh. However, these stories made me think about how many times in a day we misunderstand each other.
Sometimes it is a simple misunderstanding that seems to harm no one. Other times this misunderstanding leads to major consequences that may take a long time to heal. But, all misunderstandings eventually result in a feeling that all of us have at one time or another. The feeling that, “No one understands me.”
It is so easy to misunderstand. Many years ago, I was preparing for a date with my boyfriend. I had carefully planned out my outfit, but was still worried about it because it was a new “look” for me. As we were going out the door he said, “Boy, you look hot.” I thought he meant I had too many clothes on for the season and didn’t look good. I was devastated, and very hurt.
After a brief pause to take in what he said, I asked him “Do you mean I have too many clothes on?” He was amazed how easily I had jumped to the wrong conclusion. He, of course, meant I looked — well I just as I wanted to look. We both laughed. However, what if I wouldn’t have asked him what he meant? What if I had brooded all night about my appearance? What if I thought he was rude for saying such an unkind thing to me? Imagine the effect this would have had on our relationship.
This is what we do isn’t it? We have our own point of view or perception about something — anything, and that colors everything we see, hear, or say about it. Do we really hear anything but our own point of view? Perhaps it’s true, no one understands anyone. What could we all do to understand each other and be in more harmony and balance? There are some practical things we could try.
We could stop and pay attention to what we are
thinking while we are listening. We could ask ourselves the question, “
Am I listening to what is being said, or am I listening to myself
comment internally about what I think is being said? “ We could care
more about the outcome for the other person than for the outcome for
ourselves. These ideas will work, and we can all practice becoming
better at human communication. At the least, we could learn to laugh at
those misunderstandings that do happen rather than taking them too
However, there is a more effective, faster, and permanently better way. We could change our perception to something that would really clear up misunderstandings and would eliminate forever the feeling that “no one understands me.” We could shift our perception.
Our perception is that we are all separate from each other, with many points of view, many needs, many pains, and many agendas. If we would step out of the Earth State of Mind Game and know what Divine Mind knows, that we are all the uniqueness of Love and Truth expressing Itself, then all missed perceptions and their ramifications would vanish. They would disappear as easily as dark does when we switch on the light.
Next time I am wondering what someone means by what they say to me, I plan to stop and ask myself, “ What does the Mind that is Love and Truth know about this?” I am positive that this point of view will result in a better understanding of the true meaning of their words, and will keep us both in harmony and love.
About Beca Lewis
As an author and guide Beca Lewis is dedicated to bringing Universal Spiritual Principles and Laws into clear focus, to shift material perception to spiritual perception, which following the law “what you perceive to be reality magnifies™”, adjusts lives with practical and measurable results.
Beca developed an easy system to do this called The Shift and has been sharing how to use this system to expand lives, and bring people back to the Truth of themselves for over 40 years.
Beca and her husband Del Piper are constantly working to develop new ways to support and reach out to others. Much of what they have been developed can be found for free at their membership site Perception U.comThey also founded The Women’s Council with the intent of “strengthening the connection to yourself, to others, and to the Divine.”
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