Here’s a strange paradox of the upward path that runs
through Real Life: the more conscious we become of what limits us, the
more limitless becomes our reality! So, take as long as you need to
understand the following special lesson; it sheds much needed light on
a certain dark state that stands between us, and the higher freedom for
which we long.
In other words, the only thing discouraged states do is to keep you busy doing nothing except feeling sorry for yourself…which is the perfect guarantee that your situation will remain hopelessly the same. Enough is enough! You don’t have to put up with one more discouraging moment, let alone a life limited by its darkness. There’s another choice you can make besides falling into those familiar feelings of being a “failure.” The next few insights will empower you to start thinking about old discouragements in a new way.
Whenever we suffer over what we aren’t able to do,
create, or work through, where is our attention in these moments? It’s
riveted on our own thought-produced reality that’s telling us we’re
stuck! Maybe you can recognize some of these heavy-hearted inner voices
that come with being victimized by such dark thoughts. In one way or
another, they say . . .
“I’ll never get out of this mess.”
“It’s too late!”
“I’m too set in my ways to change.”
“This is hopeless.”
Now on the surface of things, these all-too-familiar whispers of defeat -- that speak to us with our own voice -- seem genuinely concerned about our unwanted condition. But a deeper look tells a much different story. These troubled thoughts are part of an unseen “conspiracy of limitation” taking place in our own consciousness! Follow the next four ideas to their stunning conclusionThey prove that self-illumination and self-liberation are one and the same power.
1. The more these gloomy voices talk to us, the more discouraged we feel.
2. The more discouraged we feel, the more certain we are there’s no other choice but to feel that way.
3. The more convinced we are that we have no choice, the less choice we have.
4. The act of identifying with this dark inner dialogue actually produces the dead-end we fear!
And so it goes: now we’re convinced of our own captivity! There’s no way past the limitations we perceive as being real. The key idea here lies in the word “perceive” because it rhymes with deceive. That’s just what this perception is: a secret deception. Here’s the liberating proof.
There are no dead-ends in real life.
Of course you must prove this bright fact to yourself, and here’s a good place to start: in any given moment there’s always something higher to do with your life than sit there and suffer over what you think you can’t have, do, or be. Why wallow this way when a small amount of interior work will forever change how you see reality? For instance, see that the “size” of your discouragement is directly proportionate to how strongly you insist life conform to your demands. Verifying this self-imposed limitation empowers you, immediately, to let it go and start over.
Here’s another example: maybe you’ve felt discouraged because you wanted to learn something new – a higher skill or a difficult lesson – but felt sure that certain limitations of yours placed this possibility beyond your abilities. Now you can do something much higher than just resign yourself to feeling discouraged.
Instead of falling into those familiar feelings of futility over yourself, deliberately drop those discourage-filled thoughts telling you the limit of your present view is the limit of your possibilities. Who you have been matters only to those dark states that want you to remain that way so that they can continue to rule the day. Refusing to dwell in the world of discouraged thoughts and feelings is the same as opening the door to a new world without limits. Just start working with who you are now!
In other words, do what’s in your power and refuse to be discouraged about anything elseKeep repeating this new action one step at a time until you’ve walked away from the whole false idea that there’s no further you can go!
Here are three special key lessons to help you strengthen and then actualize your wish to live in a world without limits:
Any conversation you permit yourself to have with discouraging thoughts guarantees you’ll wind up with a good reason for feeling discouraged.
When you know that what you’re looking for is what you already are -- and not what you may become -- you stand on the threshold of the limitless life.
The universe itself is actually set up for you to succeed with realizing the limitless life, which means you are made for whatever happens to you!
Adapted from Guy Finley’s best-seller, “The Essential Laws of Fearless Living,” a Red Wheel/Weiser publication
Guy Finley is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, and 35 other works that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. His work has been featured on hundreds of radio and TV networks including NBC, CBS, ABC, CNN, NPR, and PBS. Guy has spent the last 30 years showing individuals the authentic path to a higher life filled with happiness, success, and true love. Finley lives and teaches in Merlin, Oregon where he is Director of non-profit Life of Learning Foundation