The path of apparent least resistance: "I've decided to give up on my dreams."
By Pam Garcy
Part 6. .
say that one to yourself? Ever stop yourself before you really even get
started? I heard someone say it the other day. He said, "I just take
the path of least resistance." Sometimes, this is the right thing to
do. But, when this becomes a default response to all of life, it can
actually create more struggle than simply honoring yourself. A lack of
fulfillment in life can lead to depression, anxiety, anger problems,
relationship stress and more.
If you find that you use the above
statement (I've decided to give up on my dreams) to stop yourself,
first consider the function of it..
•Is it helping you to accept life conditions that you absolutely cannot
change? In this case, it might be that you are coping with something
very challenging, and your current decision is actually helpful to youIn such cases, you might want to continue to do this until you can move
from a place of "surviving" into a place of "thriving".
•Alternatively, is it allowing you to run away from feeling a little bit
uncomfortable, even when there are abundant opportunities that you
could pursue, if you simply decided to do so?
If you begin
to move in the direction of your dreams, but then you back away, you
may be avoiding dealing with an uncomfortable anxious or fearful
feeling. This feeling may be something that arises for you when you
step outside of your comfortable set of behaviors, called a "comfort
zone". See if you can become clearer about the source of this feelingAre you afraid of:
Having to work hard?
Having to learn something new?
All of the above?!!
To help you to begin to break past this avoidant style, here are some questions to consider:
•Did you ever stop to think what might happen in your life over the long
term if you continue on the path of apparent least resistance?
•What will happen if you ignore your still small voice, the one that is
urging you to be honor your inclinations?
• Is it
possible that it might be more painful to ignore your inner desires
than to attend to them, if you ignore them long enough?
• How might you be cheating others in the process?
• What might happen if you changed your mind and decided to reawaken even just one of those dreams?
may be saying, "Okay, but it has been so long since I've honored
myself, I don't even know what I want anymore. How can I get back in
touch with that?" First, find yourself a quiet place. Allow your mind
to become quiet. If you'd like, you might want to ask yourself a series
of questions and see what arises for yourself. Here are some examples
of questions you might ask yourself:
• How would life look if I were totally fulfilled?
• What would be going on?
• What could I be enjoying?
• What is the first step toward more fulfillment and happiness in my life?
it is good to take a small step in the direction of your dreams, just
to see if they might still be there after all. Just a teency weency
step....because there's only one you.
Next issue: Part 7.
PhD is a Psychologist and Coach in Dallas, Texas. If you'd like a
partner in reaching your goals and overcoming the obstacles that seem
to stand in your way, please contact Dr. Pam for coaching at
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