We want to find unshakable inner peace, although inner peace is not something found so much as something uncovered.
We perceive where we are challenged in life as something that is "causing" our loss of tranquility… be it the loss of a relationship, boredom with work, stress and anxiety, wondering which path to take, or confusion as to the purpose of life itself – these are just some of the life challenges that can 'apparently' deprive us of inner calm.
But is this true? Does something outside our self ever lessen tranquility? Or is it the way we are choosing to respond to our life challenges that is causing inner turmoil?
I maintain the latter… it is how we choose to respond to life that pollutes or liberates our inner sanctum.
If we adopt the above statement as our own personal tour de force it brings at the same time both poignant responsibility and total freedom. By adopting this dictum we are admitting (the truth) that we are all responsible for our inner world and therefore creators of our happiness (or despair).
Whenever I mention this and others disagree, I always give the example of an accident I witnessed. The car crash was quite violent but the 4 passengers were all wearing seat belts and no one was hurt. All 4 people had the same experience. After the accident, one couldn’t stop trembling and spoke with a shaky voice. Another cried uncontrollably. The third was in a state of shock and sat on the side of the road alone, speaking to no one. And the fourth person seemed unaffected and passed between his three companions speaking gently and reassuringly to each of them.
What does the way these 4 people responded to this accident show us? Because each person responded differently to the same event, it demonstrates that we are all responsible for our inner world, that is, our interpretation and emotional response, and these continue to profoundly affect our feelings and behavior.
I experienced this fundamental and powerful lesson when under the care of a psychiatrist. I had been suffering from schizophrenia for a number of years as a young man and, because I had gone off my medication, I had a relapse. In an interview with my psychiatrist I asked what my prospects were for getting back into work. He replied that I would probably never work again! I chose to accept this judgment and on returning home I became very distressed. I began to play out a scenario in my mind… If I couldn’t work again, then I would have no money. If I didn’t have any money I would never be able to find a girlfriend and get married. If had no work and no companion, my life would be empty and meaningless.
I then descended into a panic attack and had to be taken into hospital in an ambulance, where I stayed for 3 months. I was suffering from an acute depression I had chosen, through believing my negative train of thought.
It took me 7 years to climb out of that depression and I only managed, by being determined to master my inner world, to shake off the last of its effects just a few years ago - 22 years after the incident. In the process I wrote a book, Unfold Your Wings and Watch Life Take Off, became self-employed and married my soul mate!
So watch how you are responding to the challenges you are facing. By responding in inappropriate ways you create a state of dis-ease and its companion, suffering… far from inner peace.
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Accessed through our website's top menu bar, the resources provide a rich collection of audio, video and text based coaching, empowering you to master your inner world. Furthermore, these resources are grouped into either free resources that provide a helpful introduction or recommended, paid for resources such as hypnosis programs, articles, books, videos and audios, plus our online program Trans4mind Training, that provides in-depth practicals tuition using interactive videos workshops that will help you see and understand the connection between mastering your current life challenge and finding unshakable inner peace.
Through Trans4mind resources, our Tools for Transformation, you will be able to access, without the need to make appointments, or to spend large sums, a treasure trove of relevant high quality training, available on your home computer, that enhances your ability to respond constructively to your current challenging situation and to make unshakeable inner peace the foundation of your life.
With the help of this training you will doubtless uncover experiences and interpretations that you found confusing, distressing, sad or annoying, but which - in the light of your new mindfulness - you can see were actually the ramblings of your frightened ego. But now you can replace these with a profound inner peace, a new foundation, which will free you to fully realize your potential!