Trans4mind Home Page

Expanding the View

By J.R. Reynolds
Share on Facebook

Originally Published in Coaching for Transformation

Many times our viewpoints of the world are centered more on ourselves and our projections than actual reality. As a result, we form opinions that can often derail even the best intentions.

This can be the case especially if we happen to be part of what social science refers to as a “dominant group.” In the United States, examples of dominant groups include: white, male, Christian, heterosexual, non-disabled, upper middle class.

Renee is a middle-aged and upwardly mobile banking executive. One of her core values is giving back to the community. After a negative experience volunteering at a small grassroots nonprofit agency focused on women helping women help themselves, she asked for some coaching.

“Volunteering with them was a disaster,” Renee complained.

“What was hard about it?” I asked.

“They just didn’t have their sh*t together over there,” said Renee.

“How do you mean, Renee?”

“So I get there and the executive director didn’t want to see me. Then, I get assigned to do accounting paperwork that any secretary could do.”

“How was that for you?”

“I felt insulted,” replied Renee.

After deeper exploration of Renee’s emotions, I helped her take another look at the agency she had volunteered with.

“What’s the annual budget of the nonprofi t?”

“Budget? From what I could tell, they were living from pillar to post,” said Renee. “They’re barely hanging on. It was so sad. How can they help their clients when they can hardly help themselves?”

I nodded, then asked, “You said the agency didn’t have their, uh, stuff together and the executive director didn’t want to see you. How might those two things be related?”

“Well, actually she did stop over later, while I was reorganizing their fi nancials.”

“Hmm, I’m curious; how did that feel?”

“Annoyed at first,” admitted Renee. “Then she apologized about not coming out to meet me and explained about the all the ‘fires’ she was fi ghting.”

“What did her explanation do for you?”

“It made me wonder why she was doing things her assistant should have been doing.”

“Where was her assistant?” I asked.

Renee leaned toward me and opened her mouth as if to speak, but stopped. She furrowed her brow. I followed suit and we sat in silence for almost a minute. Finally, Renee spoke.

“It didn’t occur to me until just now that she might not have had an assistant,” Renee said almost at a whisper.

More silence.

“What’s going on with you?” I asked.

“Feeling uneasy.”

“Where’s that showing up in your body?

“My stomach; it’s knotting,” Renee said.

The coaching continued with Renee sharing an expanded view of her experience. In the process she admitted her initial interpretation of what transpired might be wrong, including a shift around why she had been assigned what she considered a menial accounting task.

“They just didn’t have the capacity to get that work done,” Renee concluded. “I also might have been the only one in there who understood what needed to be done.”

“Where does that lead you?” I asked.

“I’m starting to see how I might really have been valued over there,” Renee smiled. “Here I thought they didn’t want me so they gave me that tedious work. Now I see they probably wanted and may have even needed me.”

“And how do you feel?”

“Valued. Like I need to pick up the phone to reconnect.”

Coaching is life-changing, world-changing work. The coaching programs at Leadership that Works go beyond theories and models and work with clients on a deeper level. You learn how to coach the whole person: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Whole person Transformation.

Leadership that Works

Transforming the world.
One heart at a time.

More articles from Coaching for Transformation
More Coaching for Transformation articles

Good info on many topics:
Submit your own article

Tools for Transformation

personal development
Trans4mind offers its visitors a huge range of complimentary personal development resources for self-directed education and transformation of the whole person...
Introduction to our Tools for Transformation. We aim to open up the mind to new ideas, new challenges and new solutions - to think differently and be creative.
Describes all the contents of
Here are our favorite quotes. The best quotes distill powerful wisdom into a few words and can make a real difference to our perception and understanding. Including:
Life  Purpose, Spiritual  Awareness, Success and Abundance, Wisdom from the Heart, Happiness and Wellbeing, Communication & Relationships, Motivation and Leadership, Parenting and Education, Emotional Intelligence, Transitions in Life, Social Community, Quirky Quotes, Creativity, Proverbs, Humor - and many further topics in the Wisdom from the Heart section.
Articles by Peter Shepherd and Wallace Huey. Imagine if the values of the heart could be brought into our families, communities, charities, organizations and businesses... what kind of a world would this create?
Audios by Peter Shepherd, focused on key personal development topics, to help advance your personal growth.
A free meditation program to help you experience the state of unconditional love - key to lasting joy and fulfillment in your life.
Become more clear about your own identity, what you want in life - your life vision - and how to manifest your full potential.
If we do actually have a soul, then where does it go after death? Near-death experiences provide convincing answers.
Check out our fascinating collection of complete books for you to read online, including Peter Shepherd’s Transforming the Mind, which created the foundation of this site back in 1997.
Over 250 PDFs to freely download covering many personal development topics - and including the range of Trans4mind publications.
Free personality test based on the Eysenck Personality Questionnaire. See yourself as others may see you, in a more objective light, so you can know yourself better.
Watch our selection of over 400 personal development videos by top experts, offering many insights about mind, body and spirit.
Our site is expansive, including loads of helpful resources. See what else we have.

Check out the menus on the top of every page too!

Trans4mind Companies


Today companies need to find new and innovative ways to prosper in a fast-changing business world. Uniquely based on empowering personal development, supported by personal trainers, Trans4mind Training's online interactive video workshops meet this need without any disruption to your existing operations

Learn more & get started...

Unlocking Mental Wealth. Activating Self-Leadership
Hypnosis Downloads

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...

View all the Hypnosis Downloads here

Copyright © 1997-2018 Trans4mind Ltd
Terms of Use & Privacy Policy       Email Webmaster