Which Is It for You: To Be or to Become?
By Joyce Shafer
In our world where "Just do it" and "Take massive action" are touted as mottos and mantras, procrastination is often considered a bad word. But, what if procrastination holds a powerful message or process for you?
Maybe you've experienced being inspired or feeling compelled to take specific action at a specific time, and you found you were right to act on it. And, maybe you've had the same experience I have, where you procrastinate, only to discover you were right to do so. Do you find the first example easier to trust or allow than the second? I'd say many, if not most, people feel like that. We've been taught to be prejudiced in this way.
Trusting your intuitive impulse to procrastinate can be a challenging mental and emotional place to be in, because something inside you is urging you to not take action, yet others are pressing you to do so or you can hear those who talk and teach about taking action chattering in your mind. You may go into self-judgment mode, and that makes you feel even worse. OR, maybe you've learned to trust the particular feeling that happens at those times.
If intuitive procrastination proved to be the right thing to do about a particular matter, that's one thing. What else might be going on when procrastination happens? I listened to an Abraham-Hicks audio on YouTube called "Procrastination is the way you feel when trying to fill your own grid." Unless you're familiar with the grid concept, you likely have no idea what this means. I'll explain; and I promise the explanation will connect with procrastination again.
When you focus on anything, you summon it to you. The way to summon productively is to create an energy grid; then you must allow the grid to be filled in. Think of this like a house being built. The frame is up and you can see through the grid work of the boards; you have somewhat of an idea what the house will look like. Then walls go up and you begin to get a better image of what it will look like as it gets more and more filled in.
Your grid is your point of attraction. When you create your grid, you want to think and feel deliberately rather than "all over the place," as may often happen with thoughts and feelings. And, despite what you've been told, you do not want to put specifics into the grid; all those specific details will slow the energy and make you work harder than you need to. You want to aim at general feelings with words like ease, comfort, appreciation, confidence, serenity, enthusiasm, joy, love, well-being, worthiness, right place, right time, right people, abundance, means to accomplish, etc., in your grid. This is the framework you create.
Each time you put a general word into your grid, feel what its like to feel the energy of the word, e.g., what does ease feel like; what does enthusiasm feel like? Let the feelings, not specific details, do the work for you energetically. What I do is call to mind a moment when I felt the feeling I want to deliberately feel in the now. Once I connect with that feeling, I let go of replaying the moment in my mind because that will just clutter the "space" with details, and I simply feel the feeling for as long as I can hold it. You want to practice feeling the vibration of each word often. Practice leads to resonance with the fullness of the vibration. When a vibration is matched, you experience full manifestation; but while you're raising your energy and getting your vibration closer and closer as a match, some pretty cool things happen, as well. This is the Universe filling in everything after the framework is created.
Your grid is a reflection of or is constructed by your active beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. Too often, we decide what we want then push ourselves toward what we desire (or believe we're supposed to) rather than allow it to come to us, whether the pushing is mental, emotional, physical, or all three. We tend to leave the spiritual aspect out of the equation; yet, that spiritual energy work is what gets the ball rolling, so to speak, and in our favor, and is what the "allowing" is about (more on this as we go). All that pushing usually or eventually puts us up against an obstruction of some kind, so we push or struggle even more, or we stop in our tracks—we procrastinate, or the Universe procrastinates on our behalf.
Procrastination can come from resistance to doing something you're required to do rather than inspired to do, as you construct your grid of experiences and manifestations. When you feel inspired, you are eager to take action. When you feel required but uninspired to take action, you can feel unenthusiastic, put upon, or resistant.
When you procrastinate about doing something you know you need to do, check the Whys. Why do you need to do it; is there any benefit to you or others, or both, if you take this action? Why do you hesitate about getting started? Something Abraham said that I found amusing and profound, that perhaps you, as well as I, have encountered is: "I HAVE to do this thing that I don't want to do. And I can't figure out why I'm not getting the cooperation from the Universe to do this thing that I don't want to do."
If you know you really need to do something and aren't feeling inspired, aren't feeling cooperation from the Universe (or yourself), you might assess the conversation you're having with yourself and the Universe about this thing. Is your conversation creating alignment for you about doing the needed action? If it isn't, you can be certain it isn't creating the alignment with Law of Attraction you truly desire either. So, you want to change your conversation.
Abraham said procrastination happens when we try to take action before the energies are aligned. We're trying to move something forward through action rather than moving it forward with aligned momentum. We need to enlist the cooperation of the Universe by doing the energy work first, which is how the grid serves us: we use the grid to align our vibration with the vibration of what we wish to experience.
Releasing disempowering, resistant, worried, anxious thoughts and frenetic activity opens your energy – maybe "relaxes your energy" is a better term to use – so that your vibration can go up. When your vibration goes up, you get closer to the frequency of Source. The frequency of Source is alignment, never strain; if you're straining on any level, you're moving away from alignment. Don't judge that; let it draw your attention to what's happening so you can shift it. You know when you're in alignment or not by how you feel. If you feel good or great feelings, you are aligned; if you have bad feelings, you aren't. The thing to remember is that you can practice your way out of bad feelings by releasing any unwanted thoughts and filling in that space with general thoughts, like those mentioned above, and feeling their vibrations.
Let's get back to procrastination. What are we supposed to do when we bump up against some forms of procrastination? I've done what Abraham advises about this: "When you feel procrastination, procrastinate. Don't try to push through it. You can't buck that current. Go do something fun." I know, I know. There are times when you might be penalized for doing this. Take this into consideration, but know there are times you need to procrastinate because the Universe IS assisting you; times when you need to procrastinate because you need to pause and align your energy with your desired experience; and times when you procrastinate because you need to recharge your energy at the mental, emotional, and physical levels.
Rushing around with a frenzied energy or having too many things to do makes and keeps our energy vibration low, not high, the way we need it to be for alignment to happen. When we want or want to do too many things at one time, we diffuse our energy and cause a shortage of focus. A low vibration and shortage of focus creates struggle.
I recall a time when I was asked to house sit for a friend. I'd been under a strain about a lot of things, including money. When I arrived at her house, I made a conscious choice to put all of those kinds of thoughts and that kind of energy aside and be where I was for the time I was there, and that's exactly what I did. A lot of people, feeling that kind of strain, would have used every spare moment to make a plan or take all kinds of action to change their financial situation.
I chose to take care of the house sitting responsibilities as needed and make the rest of the time a vacation, including or especially from thinking about anything other than what was right where I was. I did such a good job with this release that income and means for income started showing up in my inbox immediately and nearly every day I was there. I didn't add any strain to this; I told those who contacted me that I was away until a certain date, made whatever arrangements I could easily make by e-mail (including pre-payment from them) until I returned home, and relaxed and recharged my energy with a nice influx of income that I didn't stress or strain to acquire. A gain without strain—what we all desire yet usually do the opposite.
Someone said to Abraham, "So what I'm hearing is that it's okay for me to just sit there and wait to feel inspired action." Abraham responded: What you're hearing is that you have no choice. What you're hearing is you can take the action and can make yourself do it, but the results won't be pleasing, and that's why you feel like procrastinating. You've been playing this game a long time. It's not fun. You can make yourself do it, but all you do is carve out a mediocre life by making yourself do stuff you don't want to do. What you want to do is find the reason that you want to do it, or don't do it.
Being easygoing, rather than stressing and straining, is frowned upon because society has stipulated that effort is rewarded, not laziness; that there can be no gain without pain; that no matter what, we should just do it. We've been conditioned to believe if we aren't struggling or taking massive action (whether aligned with it or not), we aren't doing what we should be doing. To deliberately procrastinate or allow it for a period of time while we raise our vibration and match it to what we want seems counter-intuitive because of this conditioning to please or appease those who do not know about or understand the leverage of alignment. We are conditioned to worry and be active, even if not productive, despite any trust we may feel about the alignment process and its leverage (if we've gotten that far in our spiritual development), because others will criticize us if we're calm and trusting.
In John Earle's book, Waking Up—Learning What Your Life is Trying to Teach You, he writes about a dying man's last wish, which is for "the town judge to give his inheritance to the one of his three sons who the judge finds to be the laziest. 'Laziest' here is used to identify the son who is the greatest mystic…" From the Rumi poem, The Night Air: "Mystics are experts in laziness. They rely on it, because they continually see God working all around them. The harvest keeps coming in, yet they never did the plowing."
That last part about "never did the plowing" might confuse some. When you focus on aligning your energy vibration to the energy vibration of what you choose to experience or create, you are working, but more effortlessly. And, you will also, in that place of alignment, receive inspired ideas. You'll also find people look for you to connect with, rather than you looking for them. Yes, you take action as needed, but you don't need to take more action than is really needed. You act, and you allow the Universe to direct what or who fulfills your desire to you so you connect with it or them, by holding the vibration.
Remember, it's more effective to choose a good feeling and practice feeling it often, until inspired ideas begin to arrive and then you take inspired action you feel eager about. It's more effective to relax and recharge, or revisit your Whys and conversations with yourself and Source when you feel procrastination. It's a good idea to get familiar with the feeling that comes with procrastination you are meant to trust that is operating in your behalf. You are meant to create and enjoy the creative energy grid of your choice. Create a grid for any project, phone call, or whatever you wish to experience. It's a good practice, one you'll appreciate.
Practice makes progress.
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach dedicated to helping people feel, be, and live their true inner power. She's author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru" and other books/ebooks, and publishes a free weekly online newsletter that offers empowering articles and free downloads. See all that's offered by Joyce on her site at State of Appreciation.
~ Many blessings, Joyce Shafer (Life Coach)