How to Win at Life
Life, and happiness in general, is a very broad subject. However, it is one that all of us have to deal with. We all want to be happy, but we don't know how. This article will teach you not only how to be happy, but also how to win at life. If you're looking for the quick answer–how do I become instantly rich? – this post isn't for you. The purpose of this article is to provide a foundation for how to be successful at life, and more specifically, how to win at life.
The formula for winning at life has five steps: 1) Be Grateful; 2) Control Your Enthusiasm; 3) Learn How To Deal With People; 4) Ask (and then Listen); and 5) Take Action. All of these things may seem obvious, but many people do not realize just how important they are. Let's start by looking at each step in detail. Here is an overview of all five steps so that it's easier to see how each step is related:
Be Grateful - The First Step to Winning
The first step of the formula for winning at life is Be Grateful. Being grateful means that you are thankful and appreciative of all that you have in your life. This includes people, places, things, experiences, etc., but it extends beyond just material objects; it also encompasses emotions like love and happiness. You can be grateful for a person by showing appreciation for them or treating them kindly. It doesn't matter if you are a supermarket worker or a famous Twitch streamer. You can be grateful for a place by enjoying yourself there (or simply being happy to be alive). And so on with everything else in your life. For me personally, I feel gratitude several times every day. Whenever I have something nice happen like if someone does or says to me – something nice or gives me something, I am grateful. The more I do this the better I feel and happier my life is.
It's easier to begin being grateful for things in your life when you are starting from a position of poverty but it can also be done if you have already started with material abundance. Some people will say that they are wealthy and have everything they want and yet still don't feel happy. They may even try to be thankful for what they already have, but it doesn't change how they feel…but why? It's because at some level they aren't really thankful or appreciative of their riches; instead, they focus on what they don't have. Don't fall into this trap, or you will never be truly happy, or grateful, and you will never completely win in life.
Control Your Enthusiasm and Win
The second step of the formula for winning at life is Control Your Enthusiasm. This step encompasses a lot, but it's mainly related to three topics: positive thinking, self-control, and cooperation.
Positive thinking is about being enthusiastic. Remember that enthusiasm brings you good things in your life. One of the main roles this plays is when it comes to dealing with people; if you exude positivity around other people they will be drawn towards you and want to support or help you in some way. The more enthusiastic someone is the better their chances are for a successful interaction with other people (especially strangers).
Self-control has to do something with positive thinking because both have to do with the same thing: being enthusiastic. In terms of the second step it means that you not only have positive thoughts but also remain patient to see them play out; many times your positivity will lead directly to success, so be patient and let it happen!
The third topic is cooperation. To control your enthusiasm in this regard means getting along with others as best you can. While this doesn't mean "be a doormat", understand that when you cooperate with others, they often wind up helping or supporting you (whether for good or ill). This causes a feedback loop where people often become more and more cooperative with you over time, resulting in big successes in life .
Learn How To Deal With People and Everyone Wins
The third step of the formula for winning at life is Learn How to Deal with People. In order to fully understand this step, you first need to know two things: what your values are and how people work .
If you don't know what your values are, then you need to start by figuring them out. Personally I have "self-determination", "experience", "meaningfulness", and "accomplishment" as my main personal values. To find your own personal values just think about some of the smaller details of your life that you enjoy or appreciate (people, places, things), then ask yourself why these things matter to or make a difference in your life. This will help reveal some of your deeper value preferences for which you can create a core set or motto.
The point of this step is not just to learn how to deal with people in general but rather to learn how to effectively communicate with them and teach yourself how they think based on your values (which you will understand by understanding what people want). This means that if you want to win at life, then you need to know how other people work and what they want in order for you, as their leader or manager, guide them closer towards your goals while also getting the things they want. You can do this through effective communication.
Tell People What They Want and How You Can Help Them Get It
The fourth step of the formula for winning at life is to Tell Someone What They Want. The main reason this is important is because it allows you to lead and mentor others effectively, and in a way that will be most effective. But there's more; when you give people what they want, it often causes them to give you what you want…which leads us back to the third step of knowing how people work.
In order for someone to help or support you in any way (especially if that person isn't intimately related to you), then it helps greatly if he or she knows exactly what your goals are. Otherwise, how can anyone else know where your focus lies? How can they evaluate their own objectives against yours? They can't!
So tell someone exactly what your goals are – ask him or her for advice about how best to attain those goals, or if you can't find anyone who's qualified to give advice then go ahead and tell people what your current goals are. You must be able to communicate effectively in order to win at life!
You don't necessarily need to tell everyone the details of your specific situation (that is, what you want). But it does help if you can get a general idea across about what accomplishments and experiences will make a difference in your life. Delve into the reasons why these things matter; use positive communication with enthusiasm, self-control, and cooperation .
Take Action and Become a Winner
The fifth step in winning at life is to Take Action and stop waiting for some mythical, ideal time to take action. There's never a perfect moment for you to take action! Or do you prefer to wait around until everything in your life is exactly as you want it before acting? No one can tell you when the best time is…no matter what anyone says, it's up to YOU alone – only you know how things are going in your life and what makes sense or would be better at any given moment – so decide now what will be done.
A lot of people have goals but don't act because they're too afraid about missing out on something better. These are the people who get nervous only when they're doing something and not enough when it comes to taking action. So if you want to win at life then you need to take action, but you also need to do it in a smart way…in other words, don't rush your progress (if moving too fast will damage your progress).
Winning In Life
If you utilise the above steps, and adapt your life to reflect this new knowledge, you will see almost instant changes occur. A positive mentality, better relationships with people, and an increase in your overall confidence level are all inevitable. Then you will start subconsciously acting and talking like a winner too. This is because it's impossible to become a true winner at life without taking action, and if you do take action then you will inevitably win at some part of your life – whether that be professionally or spiritually.
If you have any sort of dream (and most people do) then apply this formula to achieve it; it has been re-invented many times by many different coaches, but the most important thing about it is never abandoning your true self. You must go for what makes sense to YOU, not someone else…it might end up costing you more than you ever imagined, but in the end the difference between winning and losing comes down to only one factor - your mindset, and determination.
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