How to Become a Master of Compassion
The Universe has a way of teaching us in the most mysterious ways. Throughout your life, you've most likely encountered experiences which made you feel stuck, lost, frustrated, or disappointed on some level. Then, just when you thought all hope was lost, some act of grace happened and life turned your situation around. You then experienced a feeling of relief, satisfaction, joy or just felt things were lighter for you in some way. Life is very intentional in the way its pendulum swings. When we get to taste sour lemons, it makes the lemonade even more succulent and sweet.
The grand diversity of experiences that life provides for you is what causes your soul to grow and evolve. We can only form a desire to move towards a higher experience of love, freedom, joy or compassion when we are wallowing deep in the trenches of our emotional pig pen. The secret to having compassion within yourself is knowing this emotional pendulum is natural and will persist throughout your existence. It is a tremendous blessing in that it causes your soul to discover what true freedom really is. When being faced with choosing love over fear everyday, the soul is forced to look deeper inside and uncover the eternal essence of your being. This essence is what's truly satisfying to the sweet and sour experiences life brings.
When you can release your personal attachment to where your pendulum is currently at in the swing, you'll discover a state of deep self acceptance at the root of your being. This very root is where compassion abides. This is an effortless state of love for yourself, the world, and everyone in your life as they are. It is complete mastery of life. This internal heaven yields a feeling of completion within yourself that is like nothing else you've ever experienced before. The deepest acceptance of life is the feeling of perpetual bliss. Happiness, joy and freedom all stem from this root of bliss, and happens for those who are willing to wait for eternity for it. When you stop rushing through life to get somewhere and simply relax into every single experience that arises, you'll soon discover the greatest compassion has already found you!
To master compassion is to master yourself. Self mastery always starts and ends with a deep curiosity about who you are. Imagine what your life would look like to always be loving and accepting of yourself, others and the world as it is. This does not mean to bury your head in the sand when you see fowl play or injustice. True compassion is much smarter than that. Real compassion understands why human beings do the things they do, and knows that you would have done the exact same thing if you were born inside their body and brain as a baby. To reach this level of emotional understanding of others is essential for true compassion to take root, and the first step to being free from any future form of suffering.
To live in a perpetual state of compassion is to be free from the judgmental mind that says this is right and that is wrong. Compassion sees the global picture, knowing the Universe is ultimately in charge and the ego is just a little pawn. Compassion is what allows you to master your life, and once you master it everyday becomes an easier ride downhill into the divine. It is the most sacred energy because it doesn't care who or what is right or wrong, how others should or shouldn't be, or what outcome needs to happen or not happen. It's an energy born from love, rooted in freedom, energized by lightness, and bound by no laws. It is bliss itself and is your natural state of being.
To begin practicing compassion with everyone you meet, start redirecting your attention as frequently as possible to the most loving, accepting, timeless, light, or spacious energy that has no judgment about anything. When you discover this feeling stay there as long as you can. This is the fuel for compassion to opens the door for divine bliss to enter. When you realize how good it actually feels, you'll spend more time being curious about how to be more compassionate. You'll devote your enter life to seeking the source of bliss, knowing it comes from accepting all beings as they are, in whatever way they temporarily show up.
The source of compassion is unlimited, and this bliss arises naturally from it. When it engages your mind completely, you won't have to try to be friendly, polite or loving with others anymore. You'll naturally have a lighter response to those challenging situations, people, thoughts, and emotions inside. You'll have discovered your own source of freedom. You may even look forward to the next challenging person as your next new opportunity to test your level of lightness and compassionate mastery. You'll find a way to use every experience that arises to bring more awareness forth, to transcend old karmic habits you've had for lifetimes.
One of the greatest secret to summoning compassion into your life begins with self forgiveness. After forgiving yourself and those with whom you're holding any heaviness inside, you can instantly access a higher energy and consciousness. Forgiveness is not something you can wait to happen to you, you must dig deep down into your emotional mire and give it to yourself. Don't wait another day of your life. Give this gift to yourself before you fall asleep tonight. Forgive yourself for any past drama and whatever "wrong" acts you did the past 20+ years. Think about everyone you need to forgive on the smallest level and tell them you're sorry, you love them, you're thankful for them, and ask to be forgiven. Allow grace to take over you. Let a soft, sensitive, sweet, lightness to penetrate your heart and enter your bones. By forgiving yourself on the inner world, others will naturally fall into this energy and forgive you on the outer world. By living in the habit of constant forgiveness you'll naturally respond to others with more lightness and compassion. When this becomes your normal everyday way of being, you've found the golden key to self mastery.
Forgiving yourself on the deepest levels takes everything you've got. It is by far the greatest act of compassion one can ever achieve in life. Perhaps you've heard the saying that one must walk a mile in another man's shoes to understand him. Well, try going back in time in your own shoes, visiting yourself throughout your entire life, and see if there's any more room for just one more ounce of gentleness that you could receive. Remember that the others you meet along your journey are just reflections of yourself, so how they are treating you on your inner world is how you're treating yourself. By going on a deep meditation journey inside, you'll bring about total inner healing and discover your life's true mission. As you let go of your ego's need to be right and step into the feeling of forgiveness, you find that deep peace is much more satisfying than being right. The relinquished ego instantly brings about the natural sweetness of your life and gives rise to an eternal spring of compassion.
The sweet source of forgiveness is not hard to find. It is closer to you than your next breath of air. Simply hold tight onto the intention that you are worth forgiving. Give yourself full permission to let go of ANY fixed idea you have about who you are or were. The soul you really are is indescribable and undefinable. Nothing can pinpoint exactly with words what you always were and forever will be. You are pure consciousness within a highly ordered chaos of perpetually changing energy. You are too mysterious to held down by any one limiting thought or idea. Certainly a negative feeling or judgment about yourself is not big enough to contain the vast truth about who you truly are.
The most enlightened way of living your life is to be free from the mind and the thoughts it formulates. Choose to be free from everything that comes into the mind. By simply making this freedom a priority, you will soon rise above the mind and see through all the subtle slippery good/bad judgments it tends to fixate on. A soul who is free from its mind soon becomes a master, and forgiveness is the super highway home. The insights and inspiration you'll receive from this path will liberate you and reveal the most enlightened loving self you truly are inside.
The last great secret to becoming a master of compassion is taking a trip down the spiritual path of surrender. Surrender means to give into your experience of life, whatever it is... don't fight it, just give into it, let go and become it. Surrender to whatever experience is here now. Give in to this sweet ever-present unbounded Universe around you, open your heart to the divine infinite reality and all that it contains. Be completely willing to be present to whatever shows up in the moment. With this approach your heart naturally welcomes every thing, thought, person and feeling with deep acceptance. There is no greater source of peace to be found.
True surrender is the deepest form of trust we can have. It is meeting life with effortlessness, and reveals a goldmine of bliss hidden inside you. Surrender naturally occurs when you understand that life is conscious, intelligent and here to help you evolve. So surrender your ego's fight to fix your problems and its ongoing effort to figure out your solutions. When you truly give up, you give in and the real answers come flooding! When you surrender to that which does not change, and is forever here now, it will instantly reveal the most spiritually awakened being inside you.
Your ability to let go and surrender is actually what measures how evolved of a soul you are. It tells you what level of mastery you've reached thus far. The more you can trust and surrender, the less the ego is in charge. Surrender opens all the doors to finding love so you can access the highest realms of bliss. It allows the mind to go beyond the duality of right/wrong and good/bad and transcend human suffering. It is the doorway to bliss and the golden key to your awakening.