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The Heart of the Matter

By Tina Olivero

We sincerely believe that our knowledge and interpretations of the world occur as reality. It's not until we realize that they do NOT empower us or contribute to our well being that we may actually decide to look in new directions and possibly let them go. When we find ourselves in cycles of destructive relationships there are judgments, assessments and interpretations at work, that do not serve us.

It is this "holding on" to our interpretations that actually allows us to continue to suffer and go around in the same cycles of self-destructive behavior. This is the ego at work. It seeks to stay alive by creating so called "realities" that do not empower us or provide us with love.

In the matter of relationships our ego is brutal and has lots of tricks in it's mixed bag of fear and suffering. In sneaky ways the ego seeks to destroy "authentic" love. How does it do this? What does that actually look like in our lives?

The ego allows us to "buy into" the world's view or "magazine/tv truths" of beauty, rather than the beauty inside of ourselves. The ego creates outside traits/characteristics as a priority over love, freedom of expression and empowerment. The ego seeks to be validated from the outside world. That may be a partner you are with for all the egotistic reasons: looks, money, status. In the egotistic world sex then becomes an act of rote machinery and remains unfulfilling in the long term. If your life has been a smorgasbord of unhealthy partners, you may consider that you have not actually had true intimacy yet in your lifetime!

With the willingness to let go of interpretations, judgments and explanations of our old world, something new becomes available. We may then distinguish when our ego is at play. We can learn to identify our ego through our egoic reactions like jealousy, anger, fear and many more. With this process in place we have a new world available. For the first time we have "CHOICE" in the matter of who we are going to be - egotistic or loving. Now that's something to look forward to!

All there is to do, moment by moment is to catch and kill the ego. Once conscious of the ego we can create a new realm of possibilities outside of the ego. Now you have a way out of those old thoughts, behaviors, mind traps, interpretations and judgments which have run your life for so long. Now you have access to love.

This distinction, "CHOICE," is available for the first time in your love life because now you are aware. Now you know better and you will choose better. Your willingness to kill off the ego and allow self love to be present is all there is to do. It sounds like a small process but it's actually a lifetime journey. In fact it's one of the most incredible journeys you will ever take.

With awareness and a new choice, consider that the greatest journey of your life has arrived - the one from your head to your heart! It would be empowering to create this journey as the "big gift" you have been priviledged to receive. It was given as a gift from heaven to learn about love. Congratulations you have arrived to the STARTING POINT of your love life!

Be inspired by yourself! Be willing to look and create your well being and power, in alignment with your heart. Let your emotions be your guiding light, toward love and through fear and suffering.

I suggest starting a daily journal of your ego awareness and your new choices and possibilities. I would also recommend the following exercise. Each night look in the mirror and congratulate yourself on three "loving" things you accomplished within the last 24 hours! There's miracles for your self esteem and self love in this exercise!

These daily exercises will create the space for your "love muscle" to grow and the "ego muscle" to diminish. Just like going to the gym consider them your daily "love exercises"! This is your life in transformation, empowerment and well being. This is your heart in the matter of LOVE!

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