Trans4mind Home Page
~ A Journey of Self-Discovery ~

Creating Peace in the Real World

By Gay Hendricks, Ph.D.

"Problems cannot be solved at the same level of
consciousness that created them."
--Albert Einstein

In thirty years of business consulting, as well as several thousand sessions of couples counseling, I've had the opportunity to see just how wise those words of Albert Einstein were.

Let me give you a $100-million-dollar example:

The negotiation had dragged on for three days, and the end was nowhere in sight. On one side of the negotiation: Four top executives from a household-name media company. On the other side: A team of executives from a household-name software company, the largest of its kind in the world. The media company very much wanted to buy a package of software worth several hundred million dollars. The software company very much wanted to sell it to them. The sticking-point seemed to be price, and the two sides were a hundred million dollars apart.

That was where things were at the end of the first day, and it was where things continued to be on the third day. By now, however, exhaustion had set in, and everyone was on the verge of chucking the whole deal. At this point, a visiting psychologist (who had been called in to assist with the resolution) suggested that the two sides take a meditation-break. They went to their respective quarters and sat down to rest their minds. The consultant invited each group in turn to do the same thing: First, just relax and breathe and rest your mind. Occasionally, he said, float what he called a "wonder-question" through your mind. Instead of thinking you know the solution, ask yourself a wonder-question, one that you don't know the answer to.

He suggested two for them to use: Am I willing to have a solution emerge that everybody's happy with? Am I willing to have a creative solution emerge quickly and easily?

The software company's group struck gold after about twenty minutes. One of their executives volunteered a simple insight. "You know what I think the real issue is? I think they're wondering if we all like each other. After all, we're going to spend three years implementing all the software. I think their real concern is whether we can get along."

The CEO then asked everybody on his team, "Well, do we? Let's not pretend. Let's ask ourselves first if we really like these guys. If we don't, maybe we ought to try again later after we've worked some of those issues." The executives raised various issues, but agreed after a few minutes that they basically liked the other side. They realized that their team was made up primarily of engineering-types, and the other side was mostly lawyer-types.

The consultant called the groups back together. Before anyone could mention any of the processes that had taken place over the past half hour, one of the lawyer-types proposed a brilliant, breakthrough solution. They split the cash difference, and gave the software company equity in several upcoming media projects that, if successful, would add well over two hundred million dollars to the software company's profits.

Twenty minutes later the deal-sheet was signed.

What Happened?
The conflict and its resolution is a classic example of a shift from a Newtonian to an Einsteinian paradigm. If you did not understand the dynamics, you might think a miracle had taken place. However, once you understand the moves that made the shift happen, you can see that there's a science as well as an art to problem-solving by Einsteinian means.

The parties had become trapped inside the Newtonian world of conflict. For every action, there was an equal and opposite reaction. One side pushed, the other pushed back. One side made an offer, the other side responded to it. In some cases, resolution can occur inside the Newtonian paradigm, providing both sides can eventually find a balance-point. In this case, though, the more everybody pushed back and forth, the deeper they got mired in the sludge. When this occurs, it is invariably a call to shift paradigms. However, often the call goes unheeded and the parties persist in doing more of what isn't working. At the extreme, a massive effort toward solving a problem can devolve into a situation far, far worse than before the effort began. Witness the war on poverty launched during the Johnson Administration. Its programs consumed a trillion dollars in tax money, but the country ended up with more people in poverty than before "war" was declared.

The 10/90 Law In Action
By agreeing to stop the wrangling and take a "meditation-break," the participants made their first excursion out of the Newtonian paradigm. Instead of the typical Newtonian move of expending more effort, they broke the paradigm. Then, with the introduction of the wonder-questions, they shifted full-scale into the Einsteinian paradigm. The players freed themselves from the action-reaction model and jumped into the unknown. They were willing to shift out of the confines of thinking they knew the right way to a solution. By transcending the push-me/pull-you Newtonian model and floating into the spacious non-confines of the Einsteinian, they unhooked themselves from gravity long enough for a new solution to emerge. I have seen this happen often enough that I call it the 10/90 Law: If all parties will let go of thinking they're right for at least ten seconds, that ten seconds takes them 90% of the way to discovering a solution that feels right to everybody.

© 2003 Gay Hendricks, The Hendricks Institute


Spiritual self

Looking for a better life?

Our online, interactive video workshops present the most effective methods of holistic personal development, covering the full range of challenges all of us inevitably meet in life.
Start off with a Free Life Assessment and a Free Intro Session...
 

Have a question about Trans4mind Training?

Frequently Asked Questions
What Are Our Fees?
Email Peter Shepherd
More personal development articles at the Counterpoint Article Library

Good info on many topics:

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

  • Sweet Tooth ~ Train your brain to lose your sweet tooth.
  • Finish What You Start ~ Sprint all the way past the finish line.
  • Do It Now ~ A hypnosis audio to trigger deep, emotionally driven activity.
  • Life Priorities ~ Hypnosis can help you clarify what really matters to you.
  • Stop Thinking About Someone ~ A session to help you move on from thoughts that have been constantly pestering you.
  • Public Speaking Fear ~ Banish speaking anxiety and nerves with hypnosis.
  • Motivate Yourself to Exercise ~ Build a powerful exercise habit that you can't break.
  • Get Rid of Fear & Anxiety ~ Stop worry and apprehension wrecking your life.
  • Self Esteem ~ Break the negative trance of low self esteem and give yourself a chance in life.
  • Create Your Own Reality ~ Use the power of your unconscious mind to transform your life.
  • Deeper Self Respect ~ Use hypnosis to connect with your true inner worth.
  • Detach From Fear ~ Tune out nervousness and anxiety with hypnosis.
  • Improving Concentration and Focus ~ Learn how to discipline, direct and command your mind to improve your performance.
  • Exercise Motivation ~ Give you powerful keys to getting back on track with your exercise - and staying there.
  • Overcoming Shyness ~ Provides an invisible security blanket allowing you to develop social ease and overcome shyness.
  • Quick Confidence Booster ~ An audio hypnosis session that's specifically designed to get you (quickly!) back on track.
  • Stop Negative Thoughts ~ Learn powerful hypnotic techniques to stop negative thoughts before they start.
  • Overcoming Procrastination ~ Let hypnosis help you get on with what you need to do, when you need to do it. Let nothing hold you back.
  • Think Thin ~ Use hypnosis to re-train your brain and lose weight naturally... that's how to get and stay slim.
  • Fall Asleep Fast ~ Relearn how to fall asleep fast and enjoy a good night's sleep.
  • The Next Level ~ Designed to radically boost your performance in any field. It's based on a technique used by top athletes and other successful people to help them make a big stride forward.
This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...
 

View all the Hypnosis Downloads here

Get a free Hypnosis Download at Facebook

Hypnosis is the key to unlocking your creativity, focusing your energy and understanding yourself

Hypnosis has a long history of helping human beings be the very best they can be. It can be used to control anything controlled by the unconscious mind - pain, blood pressure, fear, confidence levels, mood, sex drive... the list goes on:

  1. You'll become highly productive without getting stressed
  2. Tap into your creative energies instantly
  3. Really understand yourself and others
  4. You'll learn how to stay calm in high pressure or uncomfortable situations
  5. Develop laser-like levels of focus and concentration

Lean more... Uncommon Hypnosis Course

Welcome to the New Wave in Meditation Technology

Click here to learn more about the iAwake Profound Meditation Program
The iAwake Profound Meditation Program
is a way of enhancing your meditation practice, making meditation not only easier and more enjoyable, but also more efficient and effective.
Profound Meditation provides the smoothest, deepest, richest, most profound meditation experience available anywhere...
Here is a link to a free 20-minute track from iAwake Technologies - a sample of the type of tools that will deepen your meditation immediately and help you quickly become a successful meditator. It's the opening track of iAwake's flagship product, the Profound Meditation Program, called the iAwake Experience...
Learn More and Download the iAwake Experience
We think you'll find this technology a tremendous aid on your transformative journey of becoming your best and most creative self - and you can get started today!
Copyright © 1997-2017 Trans4mind Ltd