Imagine each of your thoughts as a mental photograph, as yet undeveloped. When the thought is first exposed to your brain, very little happens. But as you expose your mind to that thought again and again, the thought begins to develop and hold an image in your mind's eye just like an exposed photograph.
In fact, thoughts really ARE that powerful. Anything you focus on mentally DOES develop into a strong interconnected network of neurons. That network then holds that thought as an image. And your subconscious mind will then push you to take the actions that will bring that image into reality. This is not theory -- it is based on the research findings of modern neuroscience.
You need to be careful about your thoughts, judgments, and viewpoints. If you focus your mind on something you DON'T want -- you actually strengthen the neural networks containing the image of that something. That is why worrying about something actually drives you closer to that something. Worry is actually a very powerful form of negative goal setting.
The more you worry about something, the stronger the neural networks containing your worries become. And the stronger those physical networks -- the more likely your subconscious mind will drive you to take actions that actually push you toward what you're worried about.
The Part Played by Emotion
The more emotion accompanying your worries, the stronger your neural networks will become. Emotion -- whether positive or negative -- is a neural supercharger. This includes stress -- which is driven by emotion!
You're getting the picture of the negative cycle that worry creates. The more worries, the more stress. The more stress, the less creative and clear your mind becomes. And the less creative you become, the less likely you will EVER solve the problem you're worried about. Plus the longer (and more passionately) you worry about something -- the faster you are driven straight into the arms of what you're worried about.
A Proven Solution
There is one, and only one, solution to this. You must step out of the stress/worry cycle, and direct your mental focus elsewhere. What you focus on grows. This is why it's so very important NOT to focus on your problems! You instead want to focus on creating positive solutions that create something you DO want. Here's a plan of action:
And in the meantime: