10 Things That Can Drive You Towards a Blissful Life
By Adeem Habib
Life is short, as we all know, but it's beautiful. Everybody blessed with breaths in this world is striving for something. The magnitude of ambitions may vary from person to person. Some seek the throne, and on the flip side, some struggle for even a meal. The division of life may be cruel sometimes, but it keeps the world going.
You will be mesmerized if you pour a pint of attention on the origins of happiness. Contentment buds from satisfaction - and satisfaction is a product of thoughts. The purity of thoughts can significantly improve one's understanding of happiness.
1. Make conscious efforts to keep a check on your thoughts
Thoughts are the crux of human consciousness. Everything that one does is the result of microamperes of charges firing in soft brain tissues. Everything humans have achieved is the result of these charges jumping from one neuron to another. It is imperative to control these micro charges for a content life. Thoughts fuel the vehicle of one's life, the better the fuel quality, the smoother is the ride.
What you think will materialize sooner or later in your life. If you believe you will fail, then chances are you will invite disaster.
“Every thought-seed sowed or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into the act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstances. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.” —James Allen
2. Don't get upset by your circumstances
Life is unpredictable, it will pelt stones at one moment and bestow flowers at other, but it is up to you if you collect the rocks and build a house or keep cursing your fortune. Harsh circumstances carve great men only if they can control their nerves instead of whining change the environment around themselves.
James Allen, in his celebrated book “As a man thinketh,” writes that don't let circumstances mould you; instead, sculpt them with your will.
Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions, but when he realizes that he is a creative power and that he may command the hidden soil and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful master of himself.
3. Don't Stress
Stress is the enemy of contentment. One must make peace with their situations. A simple method to tackle stress about scenarios out of your control can be asking yourself that you can change the world by fretting over it if the answer is no, then why stress.
Try to change, and change starts from within. Agonizing thoughts can be brutal for mental and physical health. An unhealthy body with an ill mentality is prone to deterioration.
4. Patience and gratitude
Patience is a virtue of prophets. Patience accompanies hope, and patience keeps despair away. Every religion that humankind is accustomed to preaches patience. Don't be hasty; good things take time.
Be not impatient in delay,
But wait as one who understands;
When spirit rises and commands,
The gods are ready to obey.
Be grateful for what you have and what you can achieve with your efforts. Try to find peace in little things. You may feel devastated on missing out on a target, but someone in the world is dreaming about a portion of success that you have. Be grateful for your health, and try to improve it. Be thankful for your life, and you will be more content with life.
5. Do not seek others approval
You want to be happy then don't seek their approval. You are the master of your own sea, and behaving like one is the only way to move forward. Your efforts are not for others, so their opinion also doesn't really matter. Be proactive in choosing people whom you can trust for advice. A man who tries to make everyone else happy ends up failing himself.
Work on yourself and know your limitations. Don't try to change who you are. Instead, try to nurture what's right in you and dump what's toxic. Lao Tzu terms it as true power:
“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power."
6. Set realistic goals
Goals are an essential piece of the puzzle of life. They give a sense of purpose to life. To dream big is not forbidden, but to dream appropriate is more important. It is impossible to become a billionaire on day one of commencing your business. Be realistic and set targets that can be achieved in a short time, like aiming to earn the first 1000 in profits, then one hundred thousand and then increasing your objectives gradually. You will be satisfied with each milestone and motivated for the next.
7. Happiness is a choice
Happiness stems from within and is never associated with external stimuli. It's a choice, not an occurrence. Happiness increases with sharing, and it is foolish to associate happiness with materialistic possessions because if that were the case, you wouldn't see a child happy.
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” ―Epicurus
8. Accepting our flaws
We are not perfect; perfection may be an Instagram illusion that comes after a thousand clicks or even more, so don't indulge in false ideals. We are told to be positive all the time and getting rid of negativity in our lives; in reality, it is opposite, and accepting the negative aspects of our personas is the first positive.
“Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.” ―Mark Manson
9. Love yourself and your surrounding
Love is the natural flow of life. Love yourself and the people around you, life will be blissful when you spread the love around you. Love what you do, love your family, love your surroundings, and love your parents.
10. The art of letting go
Letting go is an art, and it requires courage. Do not cling on stuff that does not give you happiness; may it be a toxic relationship, a job, a neighbourhood, or a person. Accept your reality and move away from toxicity. This may seem hard at first but is the ultimate solution to sorrow.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” ―Albert Camus
About the author: Adeem Habib
An avid reader and writer at Research Prospect. Former fellow at Amal Academy (Stanford Univ. funded project) and a teacher by passion in Chemical and environmental engineering field. Passionate about self-growth and positivity in life. Former teacher at Amal Academy and SIMT with strong roots in academics.