Trans4mind Home Page
~ A Journey of Self-Discovery ~

Composing a New Life

By Linda Sapadin, Ph.D

Many of us expect the year ahead to be mostly the same. A little upgrade here, a little refinement there. A speeding up here, a slowing down there. But all in all, we think our lives are going to remain stable. Which is fine. One does not need to “race to the top” or “become a new you,” even if magazine headlines blare out that message.

For others, however, this will indeed be a year in which their lives are profoundly altered. Why? Because a major change will take place with their health, relationships, children, work.

What does a person go through when she realizes that from now on, it’s all going to be different?

How does a person adjust when he recognizes that the rhythms of his life will never be the same?

All too often, people seek to hold on to the continuity of their lives, even when they recognize that it’s deeply flawed.

Maria will not consent to a divorce even though she knows that her husband is involved with another woman. John will not leave his family business, even though he is trashed on daily by his father and uncle. If people were not so fearful, if the risks didn’t loom so large, people could more easily figure out a way to move forward in life. And for some, this is that year.

Maria is finally ready to compose a new life for herself. Much like a battered child, she has stayed way too long in her marriage because she didn’t know what else to do, where else to go, how else to live. “I’m a wife and a mom,” she’d proclaim. “I don’t know what else to be. Besides, I’d be so lonely without my husband.”

Now Maria recognizes how lonely she’s been with her husband. She knows now that she needs to compose a wider life, a fuller life, a richer life. She knows that is not going to happen right away. She must go out into the world and find her place. Not easy. There are moments of panic, moments of retreat.

But there are better moments too. There are moments of forging new relationships, learning new skills. Indeed, Maria is now looking forward to what the new year will bring. Rather than obsessing about how difficult life will be, she’s viewing life as an improv show , recognizing that she needs to develop the skills to think on her feet, respond in the moment and maintain a sense of humor.

John is threatening to leave the family business. He has made up his mind that he will no longer take the abuse. He has conflicting thoughts. Though yes, it’s a family business that he “should” be a part of. But no, he shouldn’t have to deal with the daily tension and stress that’s affecting his health and marriage.

First, John will see if he can restructure his role in the business to make it less stressful. If he can’t, he will leave with skills and strategies in hand. He has a lifetime of productivity still ahead of him and though it’s scary, he’s looking forward to composing a better life for himself in the year ahead. Will it be easy? No. Will it be worthwhile? John is betting on it for he doesn’t want to look back 20 years from now and say, “I should have….”

Now what about you?

Is it okay for your life to go on as is because all is working rather well? If so, great.

If not, let this be the year you compose a life for yourself that you can be pleased with and proud of.

Copyright © 2015: Linda Sapadin, Ph.D
Linda is a psychologist and personal coach in private practice who specializes in helping people enrich their lives, enhance their relationships and overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior. For more information about her work, contact her by email or visit her website at PsychWisdom.

More personal development articles at the Counterpoint Article Library

Good info on many topics:

Want to renew your life?

Our online, interactive video workshops present the most effective methods of holistic personal development...
Start off with a Free Life Assessment and a Free Consultation...

Have a question about Trans4mind Training?

Frequently Asked Questions
What Are Our Fees?
Email Peter Shepherd

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...

View all the Hypnosis Downloads here

Get a free Hypnosis Download at Facebook

Hypnosis is the key to unlocking your creativity, focusing your energy and understanding yourself

Hypnosis has a long history of helping human beings be the very best they can be. It can be used to control anything controlled by the unconscious mind - pain, blood pressure, fear, confidence levels, mood, sex drive... the list goes on:

  1. You'll become highly productive without getting stressed
  2. Tap into your creative energies instantly
  3. Really understand yourself and others
  4. You'll learn how to stay calm in high pressure or uncomfortable situations
  5. Develop laser-like levels of focus and concentration

Lean more... Uncommon Hypnosis Course

Welcome to the New Wave in Meditation Technology

Click here to learn more about the iAwake Profound Meditation Program
The iAwake Profound Meditation Program
is a way of enhancing your meditation practice, making meditation not only easier and more enjoyable, but also more efficient and effective.
Profound Meditation provides the smoothest, deepest, richest, most profound meditation experience available anywhere...
Here is a link to a free 20-minute track from iAwake Technologies - a sample of the type of tools that will deepen your meditation immediately and help you quickly become a successful meditator. It's the opening track of iAwake's flagship product, the Profound Meditation Program, called the iAwake Experience...
Learn More and Download the iAwake Experience
We think you'll find this technology a tremendous aid on your transformative journey of becoming your best and most creative self - and you can get started today!
And here's a fantastic resource for self-education...

The World of Inspiration eLibrary

World of Inspiration
A treasure trove of personal development wisdom

Step inside. Just like a real library, there are thousands of quality eBooks presented on three "floors" and in different "rooms." To purchase your $15 Lifetime Membership to the World of Inspiration eLibrary, click the following button:

Payment is made through our secure transaction agent, PayPal.
The transaction is in the language and currency of your choice.
"I want to just say 'WOW!' This collection is probably the best money I ever spent! I've already received many times over in personal enrichment after just 9 days. I've had a past metaphysical background, but even newcomers to this material will really benefit. Thanks again." ~ J.S. (Pennsylvania, USA)
"The collection is everything which you promised. And more! A superb contribution to the good of the world. Many thanks indeed." ~ R.P. (Georgia, USA)
"Just a short note of thanks for the library. I've only had membership for several days now but I already feel this is perhaps the most interesting compilation I have yet seen. Worth far more than the price of admission. The browser linked structure works well and makes it easy to manage such a large storehouse of information. It is rarely that I find something I like as much as this or that I feel strongly enough to write a note like this." ~ P.W. (Minnesota, USA)
Copyright © 1997-2017 Trans4mind Ltd