One thing that should never be undervalued is self-esteem, especially for women. Womanhood, in the modern day, has been under attack. People are constantly questioning, “What is womanhood?” and “What makes a woman?” These types of questions can make you feel undervalued and unappreciated. Movies, stories, and politics all try to create a mold in which womanhood needs to fit instead of telling women that it’s alright to be who you naturally are. Because of all of these things, it’s vital for women to build their self-esteem early in their lives and to build it in a way that helps them to find peace and love in their lives.
The first thing that you should do is learn to love yourself for you. If you look at the cover of any magazine, you might see images of women with impossible bodies, sleek hair, and perfect skin. These images might make you start to dislike yourself and compare yourself to the impossible people around you. This can lead to a swirl downward of negative thoughts, impressions, and low self-esteem. To stop this, try to avoid entertaining negative images that portray women as objects or trophies. Instead, follow pages like City Beauty on Facebook that promote women as strong and independent.
If you want to be proud of the body you’ve achieved through hard work and dedication, do it. However, you also shouldn’t try to force other women to be the same as you. Be proud of who you are and don’t try to be like someone else or encourage someone else to be like you. Love yourself for who you are and not for the attention (or lack of attention) that people give to you.
The next thing that you should focus on is defining what beauty means to you. Beauty is a relative idea and there shouldn't be one thing that everyone deems as “beautiful.” The saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is absolutely true. Redefine what you think of as beautiful. If you love a certain color on you and society says that it doesn’t match your skin color, wear it anyways. You shouldn’t have to care what the people around you are telling you to be and what to wear. Be your own kind of beautiful.
Every morning when you get up, go to the mirror and look at yourself. Rather than talking badly to yourself, practice positive self-affirmations. What this means is that you should talk to yourself like you are your best friend. Tell yourself about the things that you honestly love. If you love your hair, talk to yourself about it. Tell yourself how much you appreciate your smile, your eyes, and your general attitude about life. Talking positively to yourself helps your body to have a positive outlook on life and boosts your self-esteem. Try to make this a consistent pattern that you practice every morning of every day.
Meditating has shown to have several benefits for your mind, body, and health. You can practice guided meditations, yoga, or personal meditation to help align yourself with your future goals. Meditation can help you to see past the problems that you are facing and focus on the future. This encourages you to look beyond the temporal aspects of your life and focus more on the things that really matter. This is important because the things that cause self-doubt are often the fleeting aspects of life. If you’re able to look behind that, you can increase your self-esteem and learn to love yourself as a woman.
Learning to have more self-esteem as a woman can be difficult at first. The thing that you need to focus on, however, is that you are enough. You are enough to be here representing the women around you. Part gaining self-esteem is understanding that you are enough to be who are you and no one can tell you how to act.