Take the Front Seat
By Peter Murphy
People who suffer from low self confidence take the back seat to those who do not. They hang back, afraid to make mistakes and take risks that may just give them their big break and lead to their greatest happiness. If you lack self confidence you can miss out on an awful lot.
Luckily, you can train your self confidence so that it increases, and feeling confident becomes a regular state of affairs for you. Simply do what confident people do.
Learning to train yourself to improve your self confidence will put you back in charge of your life. You will no longer hide out in the back of the room, afraid to voice your opinion. Instead, you will be able to stand, with confidence, as an equal with your peers and share your valuable opinions and thoughts. This can be as easy as copying the patterns of self confident people.
9 Secrets of Self-Confident People...
- Take an honest inventory of your insecurities
Sit down and really listen to that inner voice. What does it say about you? From regrets, weight, poor relationships and feeling unworthy, take an inventory by writing these thoughts down. Recognize that they are just insecurities.
- Do not allow yourself to feel inferior
Fight against the urge to believe that the others around you are simply better than you. They are not. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
- Nobody is perfect
No matter how confident a person seems, nobody is perfect. In fact, it is our imperfections that make us unique. Stop focusing on perfection and instead learn to love yourself for your flaws.
- Celebrate your successes
No matter who you are, there is something that you are good at. Take the time to find the things that you enjoy and are good at doing and then do them. If you have a green thumb, grow a garden and allow yourself to enjoy it. If you have a way with words, write poems or cards for the people you love and don't be afraid to give them out. This is a great opportunity to explore new interest and activities.
- Always be grateful
Never forget to be thankful for what you have. Taking a moment during the day to consciously think of the things in your life you are thankful for is important.
- Don't be negative
Self pity just makes things worse. When you are feeling negative, make an effort to think positively. Hating yourself or your life is self defeating. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your job, take a few minutes to think of three positive things about it. Do this every time you have a negative thought. You may be surprised at how quickly you become a positive person and thinker.
- Be gracious when you're complimented
Recognize that when people give you a compliment, they mean it, so be gracious and accept the compliment. Don't just shrug compliments off.
The physical act of smiling can actually make you feel better, so smile, a lot. Smile at yourself, smile at others and smile at nothing in particular. It is a great way to feel better.
- Until you feel it, fake it
Just like the act of smiling can make you feel better, acting confident and happy will help you be happy and confident. Make an effort to be the happy and confident person you have always wanted to be. In no time at all, you will notice there is less pretending to be confident and more just being confident.