Changing in Time
By Jeanie Marshall
How quickly can you change your mood or behavior?
Your mood or behavior can be changed in the blink of an eye, if you choose. However, a blink-of-an-eye change usually comes after years of preparation. The preparation may be through trial and error, reflecting on missteps, experimenting, meditation, journaling, or any number of other practices. Although it is not necessary, the blink of an eye happens for many people after struggle, despair, or other difficult times.
Our fast-paced digital world keeps telling us that everything is supposed to happen quickly. In the behavioral sciences, there's a strongly-held belief that we humans need a lot of time to change. Such a belief can be helpful so that we don't feel guiltily about needing time to change, but it does not serve us if we use it as an excuse to take a long time. We humans can move faster than technology.
When you want to change a habit or behavior, you do not need to adopt the popular belief that it will take a lot of time to do so. Consciousness changes in a nanosecond. If you need time, take it. It can be wonderful to be a witness to your own process through time.
I often see in my work with clients how certain changes must take place below the consciousness awareness. I have concluded that happens when people are likely to resist the change in some way. Resistance can include doubt, conflicting beliefs, not liking what they see, or any negative feelings. It can certainly feel discouraging to conclude that "nothing happened" when their subconscious mind is simply protecting them from the process.
When change takes (or seems to take) a long time, why does it take time? There could be many reasons. Most change takes place incrementally and/or at different layers and levels of the energy field. At each increment or level, an individual needs time to integrate the changes. When the time is right, it can appear that the person merely snaps his and her fingers and the consciousness shifts.
If you have a long-term goal or a dream, it is important for the goal or dream to unfold in time. Life is in the journey, not the destination. A long-term goal might be very clear in your mind's eye, yet as it unfolds it gets richer with nuances and dimensions you were not aware of when it was a vision. It is fun to be in the process of creation.
Instant manifestation can actually be problematic. If you have a high level of consciousness, your instant manifestations will be more magnificent than if you have a low level of consciousness. With high consciousness, a healing can take place instantly. With lower level consciousness, a mess can take place instantly. And there is no problem with creating a mess, the act of cleaning it up can be creative and clarifying.
An instant change in attitude is something we can all do, if we choose. Anger can turn to compassion in a nanosecond with new information. Frustration can turn to inspiration with a different perspective. Mistakes turn into successes by re-framing results. Feelings of failure can turn to excitement about a new goal by shifting the attention. A complaint can turn to gratitude with a fresh insight. Any negative feeling can change to a positive one with intention, outside of time.
Change is about choice. Life doesn't happen to you; you happen to it.
If you do not like how you are feeling, change how you are feeling.
If you do not like the situation you are in, make a change. You can change your situation; you can change your thoughts; you can change your feelings; above all, you can change yourself. Sometimes all it takes is to make a commitment to change, so that the Universe can send you what you need.
Make a choice to feel good. And make that choice again. And again. When you do that, all the things you want to change in your life will flow naturally because you feel better.