Key Mindset Shifts to Become a Better Person
By Jacob Dillon
It feels like everybody’s trying to become a better person nowadays – or, at least those that we’re constantly in contact with. Or, I could be wrong, and you might be surrounded by people that couldn’t care less about personal evolution. That happens too.
Either way, generally, man is constantly seeking new experiences. Common sense and real experience show us that “good” experiences and states trigger significant shifts in perception.
After enhanced emotional states, we can hardly ever be satisfied with a less powerful states than those we’ve previously experienced.
Growth can be attained in many different ways. You can grow if you engage in competitive activities, but also if you engage in collaborative/team building activities.
You can grow by reading books, or by gathering practical experience.
You can evolve by accepting yourself, or by rejecting (and replacing) certain parts of you.
Growth is spectacular. It is ever present, everywhere around us. Nature grows, dies, grows, dies. So do we. If we stop learning, we will basically die. Not physically, but mentally and spiritually.
Here are some key concepts that should influence or even generate mindset shifts, right now. The purpose? Of course, that omnipresent promise of “becoming a better person”!
All you have to do is pay full attention and stick with me until the end. Ready? Set? Go.
Assume Full Responsibility
When I was a student, I was a very irresponsible teenager. I was always delaying my responsibilities, asking a college essay writing service to get me out of trouble every time I didn’t care enough. I had them write my essay every time I was too lazy to do it myself or preoccupied with other things.
That didn’t really help after all, as I had to pick it all up later when I needed those concepts and skills.
This one is very simple. The key to integrity and independence lies in assuming full responsibility for your life and actions.
If a drunk driver hits your car by mistake, it was you who chose to go that path, it was you who woke up 10 minutes late, and it was you that ended up there. Of course, the drunk driver has the main fault, but if you were to focus on that, you’d start losing the essence.
What is the essence?
Absolutely every experience, choice, and decision you have and make will give you experiences. “Good” and “bad” are abstract concepts. A bad experience is often a good experience because it shows you what you must do to stop suffering. A good experience is great because it shows you what is actually attainable and gives you hope.
Simply start assuming more responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, and actions. If bad stuff happens, learn as much as you can from it!
Understand the Difference Between Power and Force
I can’t help but share a longer excerpt of the concept Power vs Force. This is from a book written by David Hawkins and represents a great source of truth and wisdom. Here’s how Dr. Hawkins differentiates power and force:
If we analyze the nature of force, it becomes readily apparent why it must always succumb to power; this is in accordance with one of the basic laws of physics. Because force automatically creates counter-force, its effect is limited by definition. We could say that force is a movement. It goes from here to there (or tries to) against opposition. Power, on the other hand, stands still. It is like a standing field that does not move. Gravity itself, for instance, does not move against anything. Its power moves all objects within its field, but the gravity field itself does not move.
Force always moves against something, whereas power does not move against anything. Force is intrinsically incomplete and therefore has to constantly be fed energy. Power is total and complete in and of itself and requires nothing outside of itself. It makes no demands; it has no needs. Because force has an insatiable appetite, it constantly consumes. Power, in contrast, energizes, gives forth, supplies, and supports. Power gives life and energy. Force takes these away. We notice that power is associated with compassion and makes us feel positively about ourselves. Force is associated with judgmentalism and tends to make us feel badly about ourselves.
Force always creates counterforce; its effect is to polarize rather than to unify. Polarization always implies conflict; its cost, therefore is always high. Because force incites polarization, it inevitably produces a win/lose dichotomy; and because somebody always loses, enemies are always created. Constantly faced with enemies, force requires constant defense. Defensiveness is invariably costly, whether in the marketplace, politics, or international affairs.
Well, what is there left to say?
Start using this concept every in thoughts, actions, relationships, challenges, problems, solutions, teaching, helping, and so on. You can find unlimited uses – stop using force, use power instead.
Attachment and love are two separate concepts that should be carefully understood and kept in balance. Love is the ultimate, supreme state of being, but also a strong affectionate emotion. The love that philosophers talk about has to do more with compassion than eroticism.
Attachment is a corrupted state that makes us become dependent on feelings, substances, people, and stimuli. If you love drinking a glass of wine every now and then, you’re not attached. If you love drinking a glass of wine now, tomorrow, and every single day for that matter, you’re being attached to the substance or to the mental state it generates.
Reducing attachment is a matter of practice. Start becoming aware of your attachments and try to understand whether you’re truly loving that or you’re simply being stuck (attached).
Understand and Practice Compassion and Love
Compassion and love is the ultimate state of being that most people seek in one way or another. The small baby seeks it from the mother. The young teenager wants the affection and compassion of his little girlfriend. A student or a mid-aged individual will seek love and compassion from the spouses/wives/husbands.
After the primary needs are met, then people start looking for money, fame, and recognition. Once that phase is over, people suddenly realize that what they’re actually seeking is a constant state of compassion and love. This is the very definition of bliss.
When you do pure good, helping a plant or an animal when nobody’s watching, that is the feeling of real compassion and love. It surrounds you, and you cannot deny it. Try acting like that in your everyday life and see how that feels!
Don’t Take Things Personally
Taking things personally is foolish because everyone has a right to have an opinion. Of course, some people have the guts to try to give their opinions a special “package”, turning them into statements or truth suppositions. Even then, realize that everything that someone says about you / about your work is purely their own conception.
Taking things personally and allowing these feelings to intrude your calmness will only slow personal growth and spiritual development. Stop allowing others to influence your mindset unless their motives are truly humble.
Improving your mindset and becoming a better person are basically two different concepts yet they have the same meaning. Finding truth and wisdom is impossible unless one seeks these fine concepts. Self-growth is basically the essence of life, as without progress there would be just death. Keep on learning and never stop seeking!
Jacob Dillon has 5 years of experience of content management and editing in a publishing agency in Sydney. He is also a professional journalist and content writer in such topics as education, career growth, technological advancements and social media. Feel free to connect with him on Twitter and Facebook.