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How to Develop a Healthier
Relationship with Yourself

A lot of mental health struggles can arise from a negative relationship with yourself, and the way that you view yourself. While you cannot always control the threat of these negative thoughts, there are steps you can take to give yourself the best chance of having a good relationship with your personal self. Here’s how.

Stay Off Social Media

This doesn’t have to mean permanently, but if you’re suffering through a particularly tough time, then taking a social media break can have a beneficial effect.

Everything you see on social media can negatively impact your opinion of yourself. It’s extremely easy to compare yourself to what you see others achieving on social media, whether this is a body image issue, a lifestyle issue, or a career issue. Social media posts — whether carefully edited or not — can easily make you think critically about yourself or your own life.

To be more healthy with yourself, sever ties with anything online, which is becoming toxic for you.

Do Activities You Love

Excelling in activities, whether large or small, which you enjoy is going to give your confidence and self-image a huge boost. Finding pastimes, you can get stuck into is essential to your own development and sense of achievement.

Some activities can also help you to truly focus your mind, which in turn can help with mindfulness and avoiding your mind wandering to negative thoughts. Examples of focused activities which can help include:

  • Painting or drawing
  • Cooking and following recipes
  • Crafts, such as making things

Make Careful Choices with What You Eat

What you decide to put into your body is a reflection of the love you show yourself. Eating healthily not only ensures that you’re looking after what’s important — namely, you — but that you’re also able to feel happy and healthy in your everyday life.

When you have a negative mindset or a less than positive opinion of your self or your body, it can be easy to slip into unhealthy eating habits, such as neglecting your food or even binge eating. Help is always available with professional programs like

Get to Know Yourself

Perhaps the problem is that you don’t know who you are, who you want to be or what your personal goals are. Frustration can easily arise when you don’t know how you’re supposed to act, what you’re interested in or what your place is.

Getting to know yourself a little more is a great step for more self-care and loving yourself. It will help you to focus on your abilities, your talents and your passions in life, which in turn will promote more positivity.

So how can you better get to know yourself?

Here are a few ideas:

  • Keep a journal. A journal will allow you to explore your own ideas and thoughts and keep them in a dedicated place, for only you to peruse. A journal can help to outline jumbled or busy thoughts, or it can include anything you need to focus on, such as a gratitude journal.
  • Ask yourself some fundamental questions. Perhaps you want to explore how you feel about the bigger life questions, or maybe even the simplest ones, like what is your favourite color or favorite food?
  • Work out your personal style. Knowing what you like to wear and the clothes or image which makes you feel best is key to understanding who you are. Your style allows you to express and explore your personality, so it can be very liberating to find a style which best reflects you.

Avoid Being Self-Critical

Showing kindness to yourself is just as important as showing kindness to others. Be sure to pay attention to your inner voice, and how much criticism you’re putting on yourself. Everybody makes mistakes, but what counts is how you learn and grow from them. Try not to dwell on the past or anything you believe you’ve done wrong; instead, reinforce yourself with positivity and support in everything you do.

Pay attention to all the things you’ve achieved, rather than anything you feel you’ve done wrong. If you don’t feel like you’re achieving anything, set yourself personal goals to work towards, or change your view of achievement. For some people, the easiest things can be the biggest achievements, and it still counts.

In Conclusion

There’s never anything wrong with reinventing yourself or working to understand yourself better. If you find yourself stagnating or riddled with negative self-doubt, taking the time to understand yourself is a fundamental step to exploring your own strengths, and all the things you like about yourself. Always try to concentrate on the positive and help and professional support is always available if you’re struggling with any mental illness or negative thoughts which are keeping you from caring for yourself the way you should.

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