The Secrets of Feeling Good
By Song Chengxiang
Whenever I ask people this question, "What do you really want in your life?" they will usually give me answers as follows: "I want to have more success in my life." "I want to have more money." "I want to have a better relationship."
Then I ask them: "What will success give you?" "What will money give you?" "What will a good relationship give you?" They will always arrive at one answer: "Feeling Good!"
Yes, "Feeling Good" is the ultimate need of any human being. Nothing is more important than feeling good. Therefore, the quality of your life comes down to one thing - your ability to feel good.
Did I say that? Yes, feeling good is an ability. It is like a muscles, the more you use it, the stronger it will become. You either use it or lose it. Unfortunately, the majority of people today have forgotten how to use this powerful ability.
Today I will give you some powerful techniques. As long as you use them, they will awaken your ability to feel good. The quality of your life will increase dramatically, you will have a tremendous amount of energy, and live a life of total fulfillment. These techniques are so simple that you won't believe it. I only ask you to keep a ten-day commitment, use them for ten days, and see how your life will change. After ten days, you decide to keep using them or not. OK, let's begin.
Technique No 1: Flip Switch
Although we know the importance of feeling good, most of the time in daily life we forget about it. We are so busy at dealing with the "important matters" we meet every day, and we forget the more important matter: "To feel good and live a stress free life." At the moment we realize it, we are already in a deep state of negativity. The solution is to do a "Flip Switch" throughout the day.
To do the Flip Switch, you hold in mind a positive image, a moment from the past that you felt really good, or just an imagined event that makes you feel good. Hold it for a few seconds. At the moment you do your Flip Switch, it will cancel out all the previous negative emotions. The key is to do it often. Don't wait until your negative emotions get big and dominate your thoughts. Kill the monster when it is little.
Do this exercise throughout the day and you will see the changes in your life simultaneously. I can't stress enough how powerful this exercise is; try it out yourself. Some people find it is hard to hold an image - my answer to them is just to pretend that you see. The importance is not how clearly you see, but how strongly you feel. (The idea of Flip Switch comes from Dr Robert Anthony.)
Technique No 2: Capture Magic Moments
We don't remember all the things that happen in our lives, but we remember some moments. Unfortunately, most people only remember the unhappy moments and forget those happy moments. These unhappy memories only make them unhappy, and they don't even notice.
The purpose of this technique is to help you consciously remember those magical happy moments so that they will make you happier. It is very simple: keep a magical journal, every night before you go to bed, and recall all the good things that happened in your day. Note down things you enjoyed, things you learned, and most importantly things you have achieved. Every week, record your top achievements during the week; and every month, record your top achievements during the month. You will be amazed by how many things you have achieved, and wonder why you did not notice them before.
Technique No 3: Be grateful to everything
Do you know what is the most powerful emotional state that people have? Yes, that is gratitude. When you are in the state of gratitude, you are in line with the source energy of the universe. You will get to see things clearly. Any obstacles will become an opportunity to you.
When people feel depressed, or unhappy, most of the time is because they focus too much attention onto the problems they have, and forget that they have many wonderful things happening in their lives.
Be grateful to the love you receive from your family, your friends, and your colleagues. Thank them in some way. Treat them a meal, buy them a gift, give them a smile and word of greeting, or just give them a prayer in your heart.
Be grateful to yourself, to your body. Say thanks to your feet for supporting you for so long, say thanks to your eyes for letting you see the beauty of this world, say thanks to your ears for giving you the beautiful sounds of the universe. Say thank you to every part of your body. Thank the universe for all the blessings it gives you, and all the blessings you are receiving. Be grateful for everything you have now, and you shall receive much more.
Technique No 4: The secret of giving
What you give you shall receive! You can see many evidences that show you this is absolutely true. You must give the very thing that you want to receive. If you want money, you must give money. If you want love, you must give love. The best way to stay happy and feel loved is to make other people feel happy and loved. Give love to everyone you meet, a simple greeting or a word of compliment will go a long way. At the very moment you show your love to other people, the universal law has already guaranteed you will receive back, and it will give you back in the most amazing ways.
A point to note is that you must give out unconditionally; don't expect return from the person you give to, and the universe will orchestrate all the details.
Give love, and you will receive love!