Are you feeling a little bit blue? It happens to the best of us. Life is a rollercoaster. Sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. And the swerves and turns come as a surprise to most of us. At the same time, it’s not like you have no control. You can take charge of your environment. And even if that doesn’t work, how you see the world and the effect it has on your happiness are still two things that very much happen in your head.
For that reason, you can take steps to make yourself feel happier. Here are some simple and quick ways that will make you feel better.
It’s quite easy, really. All you do is sit down and think of some ways that you’re happy about aspects of your life. These can be abstract things, like world peace, people, like your grandmother, or objects, like your autographed poster of Mr. Bean.
If you struggle to find anything that you’re grateful for, then try imagining your life without certain things – like your grandmother, peace or that poster. Really get into it and imagine what life would be like. Then when you come out of it, you’ll feel happy that you have it.
It will be difficult at first, but it does get easier. And it will make you happier, more thoughtful, and has dozens of other benefits besides.
This means not having your smartphone close to your bed where it can wake you, making sure have a healthy sleep rhythm and that your bedroom is the right temperature. These things can make a huge difference.
Instead, spend quality time together. Focus on each other and the words you’re saying. It’s a great mood booster.
Why? Because happiness shouldn’t be a goal. Happiness is a process. When you’re doing things that make you (and others) feel good, then you’ll be happy.
Yes, that does sound a lot like the Calvin and Hobbes comic about lowering your expectations to where you’ve already met them. But then, that was a smart kid.
And that will just make our mood worse. For that reason, focus on not doing that. Don’t nag. Don’t complain. Don’t demand. Instead, explain calmly or demonstrate through little things that you care. The great thing about this strategy is that it will create reciprocation which will, in turn, make your mood better.
Nobody gets to feel happy all the time. There are a lot of ways that it can go wrong in surprising and unexpected ways. At the same time, we can all feel happy some of the times. Even better, sometimes things go right in surprising and unexpected ways. It’s just a matter of tacking advantage of those moments and enjoying those times for what they are. Then you’ll be happier and life will be better.