5 Ways to Be More Grateful
There’s a very simple fact of life that we all know, and yet we all regularly forget. It goes like this. No matter how good or bad our day is, or how positive or bleak our situation seems, there’s always somebody somewhere doing better than us, and somebody doing worse. When we’re doing well, we ought to remember that there are people struggling who could use our help. When we’re struggling, we need to be more mindful that there are people around who can and will help - all we need to do is ask them the question. We should be more grateful for that reality.
Gratitude isn’t a simple process of saying ‘thanks’ every time someone does something for you - it’s a deeper way of looking at our lives and the wider universe, and reminding ourselves to appreciate what we have and be thankful for the things that make our lives better. By reminding ourselves to be grateful, we’re also reminding ourselves to think positively. Grateful people focus on the positives, and that makes it easier to deal with the negatives. It’s been proven by psychologists that being grateful brings health benefits, and so it’s something we should all be striving for every day. Here are five practical tips that will hopefully make it easier for you, and perhaps even help you to see your life in a different way.
Appreciate Every Challenge
We all know the feeling of being over faced by a huge pile of work, or being made to deal with a situation that's going to take a lot of time and effort to resolve. Often we'll get nothing in return for the time or effort we invest in solving the problem until the very end of the process, and that can seem like it's a long way away. This is how a gambler sometimes feels when they're playing UK Online Slots. They can be reasonably sure that so long as they carry on feeding money into the online slots website they've visited, they'll eventually see a return on that money - but they don't know when that return is likely to arrive. The downside of the online slots scenario is that sometimes the money will never turn up at all. With hard work and effort applied to a plan that has a clear route to success, though, the success becomes inevitable.
Dealing with arduous and difficult tasks helps you to learn about yourself. It teaches you to have patience and improves your resolve. It can even teach you compassion and persistence. On top of all that, it means you're not going to be bored because you have so much to do! Be thankful that the challenge exists, and welcome the lessons that it will bring.
There are many self-help guides out in the world that focus on teaching you how not to become your own worst enemy, but the easiest solution to that problem is to become your own best friend at all. Take actions today that you'll be glad of tomorrow, and then thank yourself when tomorrow arrives. This is the practice of self-love, and it's good for your sense of self-worth and self-belief.
You can find reasons to be thankful to yourself in the smallest of gestures. Doing a laundry load when you really don't feel like it, so you don't have to do it tomorrow. Stop putting things off. Stick to the plans that you've made, and see them through. Not only will you have more to be thankful for, but you'll also feel more accomplished because of it.
Keep A Gratitude Diary
In our darkest moments, it’s easy to feel like we have nothing to be thankful for at all. Negative thoughts and emotions can overwhelm us, and we feel alone and adrift. If it’s impossible for us to find comfort or solace from external forces and entities in those moments, then our comfort must come from within.
If you keep a gratitude diary, you have something to turn to when those low moments arrive. Write down everything you’re glad of every day, from the small things to the big things. Write down compliments you’ve received, or accomplishments that you’re proud of. Record great moments, great meals, and great meetings. Your gratitude diary should be a collection of happy memories, and it’s remembering those positives that will lift you out of sadness.
Say Thank You to More People
We live in a very privileged time. Right now, as you read this, you’re connected to the rest of the world using a piece of technology that puts you in touch with everyone you know and care about. You can send a message to anyone you like, any time you choose to, and yet most of us don’t do that often enough.
You know who your friends and loved ones are, and you know why you appreciate them. You probably haven't told them that recently, though. Every week, pick two or three people who've done something positive or helpful for you, and thank them. It doesn't have to be recent - a positive impact is a positive impact no matter how long ago it happened! Not only will getting into the habit of giving thanks improve your mindset, but you're also likely to receive positive responses - and so the whole thing develops into a cycle of positivity.
Find One Positive in Everything
No matter how bad a situation might seem, it will almost always come with one positive. The positive might be hard to find or identify at first, but it's usually there. When a relationship ends, it's a chance to start again. When someone's life comes to an end, they're no longer suffering or in any pain. It can be very hard to be thankful for those things in the heat of the moment, but it's possible to be thankful for them in the long run, and we should be. It's highly likely that whatever your biggest concern is today, you won't even remember it a year from now. By contrast, the one positive that came with the concern may have blossomed into something wonderful.
Take every setback as a new opportunity. Every cancelled chance is a plan to come up with a new one. Every setback is an invitation to think of another way forward. Very few circumstances are permanent, and recovery is almost always possible. The light is there if you’re determined to look for it - so look for it relentlessly until you find it.