Four Steps to Confident Coaching
By David Wood
Have you ever felt unsure of yourself as a coach? Scared that you might not have an answer for someone? Worried you'll give the wrong advice? Concerned they'll think you're a fraud?
The biggest difference I seem to make with the new coaches I mentor is in the area of confidence. Sure I help them with designing their unique coaching session, marketing and business set up. But their main block is often lack of confidence.
What if you have - right now - much more to offer a client than you think? What if you could make a big difference to someone's life right now -before you get your qualification? What if you could go out and get ten new clients after reading the information in this article?!
In the CoachStart Manual™ I detail seven insights which will help you obtain confidence - right now. I'd like to give you the first four of these insights here in this article.
Here are some valuable things you can offer to a client - right now:
- The way you listen
Most people listen in the "waiting for my turn to speak" mode. Or noticing if this is boring or entertaining. But the coach listens with undivided attention. A coach listens from "Is this moving forward?" "Does this sound like what they really want?" "Are there any actionable steps to take?" Simply by both of you coming together to look for ways the client can progress, they are getting something they don't usually get from conversation.
- Being there each week
It's amazing how much a person will get done just knowing there is someone to hold them accountable. They know next week you are going to ask them, "Did you do it?" Just by being there you are helping them discover what is important in their life. (It's like having a running partner. Without the partner there you may not run as far or even get out of bed. With a partner your attention is on running, and you run further, faster and with more fun!)
- A sounding board
Being able to talk about their issues lends clarity. Just discussing what has been clanging around their heads all week is valuable. Have you ever been trying to solve a problem and getting nowhere until you had a chance to talk about it with someone? You are giving your clients a chance to do that every week.
- A second head
You may be able to see what they are doing in a new light. You may have a different perspective allowing you to see their blind spots. Some things may be obvious to you, but don't even occur to them. You might have different ideas they wouldn't have had.