Does Failure Make You A Greater Person?
By Alan Rada
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is a delay, not a defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” - Denis Waitley
When we try to do new things, it is possible that the word failure is hovering around us, trying to cover us with a thin blanket to let us see only up to a certain part of our plan. However, we have to learn, sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad, that we are the ones who lead the chariot of our actions.
Finding new motivations that help us reach certain goals will always be the ones that push us to live, to feel, to think beyond our charms and limitations. When we misstep we are growing, we are looking for alternatives that enlighten us in that whatever we do to improve, to help, to love.
At the same time, we must not forget that, when we are in the process of recovering after a failure, it can strengthen or annihilate us and prevent us from continuing to try. According to some neurological studies, the brain structures associated with stress can change through specific and reproducible neural activity standards.
Throughout our lives, most of us take wrong decisions, whether due to ignorance, because of something or someone else influences us when deciding which way to go, what to choose, with whom to join, etc. However, if this did not happen, we would live without possibilities that can be an alternative way to get what we want.
Scientific View
Professionals recommend establishing goals that allow them to perceive ”feedback of frequent satisfaction and incremental progress” since their objective is to reconfigure the probabilities in their brain that their commitment will produce development, growth, promotion. It may even be through a growing challenge, you need truly to want your target. Select a goal that you would enjoy both during the transition and at the end".
When we fail in something, even if it is in predicting the NFL odds, the brain produces cortisol, leaving us with a bitter feeling and with a lack of security. When we win, our brain releases serotonin, endorphins, and dopamine, which makes us want more or do something again.
Imagine the happiness when a student gets its professional title, when you buy your first car! That feeling is immeasurable.
Recovering from Failure
Not having the ability to handle difficulty, dilemmas or repentance makes the feeling of frustration going on. Remember that you can handle this bad experience and it will be more viable to confront the burden in a more fruitful way.
When we are going through moments in which we feel we have taken a bad step, it is not easy to observe its repercussion. We will not see beyond the horizon, so to speak, when there is a storm approaching. Nevertheless, that's when we have to take action. Therefore, if you failed at something, it is better to understand the importance of failing and failing frequently. But, before a fall, how do we recover?
We can mention some phases on which you can get ahead. For example:
- Review the goals from the beginning to see where and how you were when you first raised them.
- Write down your faults and the reasons to fail. You can get many advantages and re-believe in yourself and your goals.
- It is okay to fail. We have to realize how important this is for our growth. It is easier to recover when you have enough experience to do so.
- At the same time, understand that it is okay to fail, but do not give up.
- Ignore the charlatans. It is difficult to deal with the "I told you so" or "you should have done it in such a way".
Finally - yet importantly - just try, and try, and TRY TO BE HAPPY.