Boost Your Confidence with These
3 Simple Exercises
By Jet Saini
Confidence and success come hand in hand, no matter if we speak about success in business or life in general. While confidence may not compensate for lack of skills, it sure does a great job at amplifying them. Research shows confident individuals are 24% more likely to overcome work-related challenges and can generate 22% more sales than their coworkers.
But is confidence something we are born with, or something we learn as we grow? As it turns out, you can actually train yourself to become a more confident person even if you are normally shy and self-conscious.
For many people, finding a way to build their self-confidence has helped them build their career and take steps towards achieving their long-term goals. But before we get to how you can build your confidence, let’s first understand what self-confidence is and why is it important for us.
Where does self-confidence come from?
By definition, self-confidence is the belief one has in their own abilities to accomplish certain goals or tasks and is measured by degrees.
According to many experts, self-confidence comes from our early years of life and is linked to the type of attachment children develop in the early stages of life. In his revolutionary theory of attachment, John Bowlby, British psychologist, speaks about the fact that children are biologically programmed to form attachments the moment they come into this world.
Bowlby mentions there are three types of attachment out there: secure, anxious and avoidant. When the caregiver is not around, children with a secure form of attachment may show some distress, but they can calm down relatively fast, knowing they can depend on their caregiver to return soon. Anxious attachment is characterized by fear of rejection and anxiety, whereas avoidant attachment is characterized by discomfort that comes with closeness. Both of these two insecure types of attachment can affect the child’s self-confidence, which carries on later in life.
The way we perceive ourselves is deeply related to the way we have been treated since childhood. Children that are told they are no good, unfavorably compared to others, ignored or abused will often grow up to have low self-esteem and lack of confidence, because the message that sticks to them is that they are not good enough.
Self-confidence, self-esteem, self-efficacy – are they the same?
We often think self-esteem and self-confidence are one and the same thing. While it is true the two are deeply connected, they do have different meanings.
Self-confidence is, as mentioned, an individual’s ability to be confident in their own abilities, knowing they can face day to day challenges with success.
Some say self-confidence is very similar to self-efficacy, which translates into someone’s ability to influence the events that happen in their lives and cope with challenges. One can say it focuses on the ability we have to handle future situations, rather than present ones, making it a forward-looking belief.
Compared to self-efficacy, self-esteem focuses on the now, and the is characterized by the stable belief one has about heir self-worth. If one’s belief in their own worth is too low, it can result in confidence issues, whereas extremely high levels of self-worth can lead to narcissistic tendencies.
Confidence and self-esteem can be learned, but you will need to work o yourself a bit. With some simple exercises that you can do any time you need a confidence boost, you will soon start to observe your confidence growing stronger and stronger. There are plenty of resources to learn more confidence building exercises, but to make your journey easier, here are three of our favorites:
Exercise 1: Use visualization to boost your self-confidence
Confidence is part of both your body and mind. When you feel you are confident, it shows in your posture, in the way you carry yourself and in the way you look. Visualization can help boost confidence from inside out and allows you to show it to the outside world.
Visualization is a quite simple exercise. Close your eyes and think of a time you really felt confident. Try to remember as many details as possible about the way to felt, what you were doing and how people around you reacted. How did it make you feel? Try to hold on to that feeling for as much as possible and fill your mind with good thoughts. Then, do your best to preserve that feeling.
Another visualization exercise is to imagine yourself in a situation that would usually make you nervous, such as a social event or public speaking. Imagine yourself having a good time, laughing, taking things easy, and soon you will get that feel-good vibe.
Exercise 2: Fake it ‘till you make it
Faking confidence is not a long-term solution, but it can prove to be a good exercise when you need a confidence boost. What makes you feel confident? Is it something you are wearing, or is it the way you did your hair?
When you have an important event coming up, or a situation you feel would require you to be more confident, put on your best clothes, groom yourself and prepare yourself to look the part. Despite how superficial this may sound when you look in the mirror and observe yourself at your best, you will start to feel more confident. You don’t need a lot of money to do that either—just a bit of effort and some self-love.
Exercise 3: Give and ask for help
Many of us find it difficult to ask for help due to fear of rejection or because we think we might be perceived as inefficient or unskilled. However, sometimes we do need a bit of guidance to be able to achieve our goals. Self-reliance is important but going past your fear of rejection and asking for help when needed will help you get confident in yourself.
At the same time, when you help others and see you are valued, it will make you feel good about yourself. It will help you see you play a much bigger role in this world and are fulfilling a greater purpose. This is perhaps the most important confidence exercise you can try.
Jet Saini is the owner of DripDigital.com - a popular Digital Marketing blog that publishes detailed tutorials that focus on helping people to build and run a successful online business. He started his blog in 2018 and since then has helped hundreds of people reach their marketing, blogging, and SEO goals.