At 19 years old, Miranda was in her first semester of an intensive college nursing program when she lost her mother. She’d always considered herself a tenacious girl who could take anything life threw her way. The unexpected death of her mom, however, hit her harder than a ton of bricks. She found herself flooded by a sea of emotions, including anger, denial, sadness and especially shock.
Just a week after losing her mother, she returned to school. She walked into her class and was a bit surprised to learn that the lecture was going to be all about the stages of grief. It was that day she learned that some of those intense emotions she had been experiencing were a natural part of the grieving process: recognised stages of grief. She also learned about the emotions she could expect to experience in the days, weeks and months - even years to come.
Dealing with death is an inevitable experience that everyone will encounter at some point in their life, and it can be tough. Very tough. Cremation diamonds have the ability to change a person’s life by helping them deal with some of the different phases of grief, but the risk is that you attach too much to the deceased person and are unable to continue with your life. What are the phases of grief? Do solid objects such as cremation diamonds help someone work through the grieving process?
What is grief? According to Mayo Clinic:
Grief can be experienced following any type of loss, i.e. job, relationship, home, etc. This article deals with the specific type of grief experienced by those in bereavement following the loss of a loved one, friend or family member.
As originally introduced by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the theory about the grieving process, which has been widely accepted by psychiatrists and mental health professionals, includes five stages of grief:
Other sources divide the grieving process into seven phases. In the seven stage model, there is an additional stage added. The first stage is known as shock/disbelief, and a stage of guilt is added after bargaining and before depression. However, most sources will combine shock/disbelief with denial, and guilt with bargaining, hence only five phases.
No two people experience grief the same way. The phases of grief are not a set pattern and cannot be followed like a road map, where you start at location A before arriving at location B and finally at location C, etc. The phases of grief come in waves and a person can go in and out of any of the phases at any time in the grieving process. The phases might also overlap as the individual works through the grief felt at the loss of a loved one.
In the last decade or so, many have challenged this theory of the grieving process, arguing that the same phases will not be applicable for everyone who is bereaved. Another argument is that the “stages” were never technically proven as fact, but formulated from a personal opinion.
Yale School of Medicine conducted a study that brought about different viewpoints of the grieving process. The lead author of the study, Paul Maciejewski, Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Director of the Statistical Modeling Core of Women's Health Research at Yale, explains:
The study did support many of the stages grief. The authors emphasized a difference in the order, and renamed them to reflect their research more accurately. They also substituted the word “indicators” in place of the word “stages” with the rationale that “stages” indicate a period of time, leaving many waiting for this time period to end. Here are the “grief indicators”, according to the Yale study:
According to their research, disbelief was heightened right after death. Anger, yearning and depression were heightened within four to six months following death. Acceptance was heightened after a six month time period following death.
Cremation diamonds provide people with a special way to remember a loved one and celebrate their life after they pass on. These memorial diamonds are transforming the way that people remember their loved ones, and subsequently serve as a significant coping mechanism for working through the grieving process. The following are three examples of how cremation diamonds can help people deal with the stages of grief:
Grief is a difficult process to work through and most people will go in and out the different “stages” over a period of time. Keep in mind, there is no specific timeline or order you will follow in your journey. The experience is unique to the individual, and everyone has the right to grieve and deal with death in a way that is right for them.