How to Deal With Workplace Bullies
You could be forgiven for thinking that bullying was something that could only happen to you in the schoolyard, but unfortunately the reality for too many adults is that this kind of victimization can continue into the workplace as well. Bullying at work is a fact of life that can destroy your confidence and ruin a previously satisfying career, but you don’t have to take it lying down - there are things you can do to put a stop to it.
One of the first things you should do if a colleague is behaving in a bullying manner towards you at work is to tell someone about it. Sharing your problem rather than burying it deep down will help you to avoid blaming yourself for what is happening to you or feeling shame for it when you haven’t done anything to deserve it. This can happen if you allow these feelings to fester, so tell a friend, family member or trusted co-worker.
Talking to them about what is happening might seem hard enough but there’s an even more difficult conversation that you may need to have - and that is with the person who is bullying you. If you feel able to raise it with them, they may not be aware of the impact they are having on you, so you could try and explain your feelings. This is important because research shows that the longer bullying it goes on and the more stressed you become, the more likely you are to become a target.
It may turn out that you need to escalate the situation to your bosses, and if this happens you need to have evidence to back up your claims, so make sure you have documented everything that has happened and are up to date on what the company policies are around bullying. With all of this on your side, you should be in a better place to put a stop to what is happening to you and read to move on from it.