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Seven Tips for Surviving a Bad Breakup


By Indy Summers

There are few things in life as debilitating as a bad breakup. Pulling yourself up off of the ground and getting on with life can be challenging when you have a broken heart. Here are seven tips to employ to get yourself out of a rut if you are experiencing a particularly bad breakup:

Pen Your Feelings

If you are feeling sad or confused, writing your feelings down on paper can prove to be a cathartic exercise. The act of penning your emotions will help you to better process and understand the root of the problem. Once you see it all on paper, you will most likely gain a fresh perspective and be able to deal with your feelings more effectively.

Treat Yourself

If there is a big home improvement project you have been meaning to undertake but have not had the motivation or justification, now is the perfect time to act. Giving yourself something exciting to focus on will help to improve your emotional state. Perhaps you can research the cost of an inground pool or look at buying a hot tub to lift your mood. Whatever you decide, giving yourself something to look forward to will greatly improve your outlook on the future.

Get Moving

The endorphins released when exercising will naturally elevate your mood instantaneously. The energy produced by a good workout will prove invaluable as you navigate these rough emotional waters. Moving your body and improving your physical appearance will also boost your self-confidence and encourage you to be social and have fun again. There is absolutely no downside to making your physical fitness a priority and doing so while going through a breakup is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.


Serving others in your community is an ideal way to shift your negative feelings about the situation to something more positive. You cannot help but feel good when you help others. Volunteering will also force you to see the positive in any situation and encourage you to stop wallowing in your own self-pity. By focusing on the needs of someone else, you will realize that you can overcome anything.

Lose Yourself in Another Story

Whether it be going to the movies, losing yourself in a good book, or watching a live performance, immersing yourself in another story will give your mind something else to land on, even if it is just for a short time. The more you do this, the more you will stop obsessing over the details of the breakup.

Lean on Your Friends

Now more than ever, you need to surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and family. Although it may be tempting to shut off the outside world and wallow in your grief, this is absolutely the worst thing that you can do. Instead, you need to make the purposeful decision to let your friends carry you during this time. It might be something small at first such as simply meeting for coffee, however, as you progress through the stages of grief, you will soon find yourself willing to engage in more social situations.

Get Professional Help

If the standard advice is not working to help get you out of your breakup rut, it may be time to seek professional help. You should not feel ashamed for going to an outside source to assist you in processing your emotions. The healing process can move so much more quickly if you have a qualified professional guiding you on your journey.

Although it may seem like the end of the world at the time, breakups can often work in mysterious ways to make you a better person. Embrace the feelings and do what it takes to get you back up on your feet again.

Indy Summers is a freelance writer interested in fashion, healthy living, and fitness. She has worked as an esthetician, as a personal trainer, and as a freelance model for several years. As such, she considers herself an expert in these industries and all topics related to them.

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