Trans4mind Home Page
~ Making your heartfelt dreams come true ~

What Relationships Really Offer Us

By Sage

In this time of constant change, both on a planetary and individual level, I am frequently assisting clients and friends through the break up of relationships. It seems as our 3D world moves faster and faster towards 2012, our process of learning life lessons through intimate partners also speeds up. As a general reality, 30- and 40-year marriages of previous generations have given way to much shorter relationships: a few years or even a few months. Some even less.

Every breakup, regardless of its longevity, can be painful to some. Yet, despite the emotional pain (heart closing), breakups also present a powerful and important opportunity to heal lifelong wounds.

In my teachings of higher consciousness, I encourage my clients to use the experience for their own highest and greatest good. Towards that goal, I ask them, What lessons were you trying to teach yourself through this experience? This might include taking a closer look at why you were attracted to this person in the first place. Was this person everything you fully wanted in a partner in the beginning? If not, why were you willing to "settle" for less than what you truly desired? Did you leave the relationship or were you the person left behind? Either way, is this a pattern in a majority of your relationships? This would speak to the 1st Universal Fear of Abandonment/Rejection.

As we seek to answer such questions, we likely find that the realizations that hurt the most are deeply rooted in our relationships with our parents. Yes, it really does go back to our parents! (Not that our parents, or other primary caregivers, are to be blamed for what we experienced in childhood; rather, as we created, they played certain roles for us so we could learn our most-needed lessons.)

Mothers and fathers are our primary caregivers, our Earthly God Figures. As such, they reflect to us our own God Selves as well as our erroneous beliefs about God. Therefore, it is important to identify your perceptions about your parents. In truth, separation does not exist - meaning, we are all God - and because of that, our perceptions about God as seen through our parental perceptions are really about us.

In his book "Walking Between the Worlds," Gregg Braden outlines a wonderful exercise in which you can identify your perceptions of both your mother and father at three different stages in your life: age 0-12, 12-20 and present age. I encourage everyone to try this...

Write down both your positive and negative perceptions of your parents at each life stage. As you look at these life spans and see where you hold negative judgments about your parents, review what they mirror to you about yourself. Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Where am I presently still doing what I judge my mother or my father, female or male caregivers, to be doing?

  2. Where, in the past, have I done what I am judging in the present and I haven't released the judgment on myself?

  3. Where am I holding judgment that there is "right" or "wrong" to experience?

  4. Which negative judgments do I deny?
Our earliest hurts in life are what present themselves in our current relationships through patterning, not the surface-level "he did this" or "she did that" events. These simply distract us from the deeper spiritual work. Once we heal perceptions of our mother and father and identify our patterns that create our illusions, we can dramatically shift our modern-day relationships. When your patterns are identified, they can simply dissolve, releasing what is holding the illusions in place.

This spiritual practice establishes the groundwork for massive healing - the kind of healing that is required to help us navigate all worldly changes ahead.

Copyright © 2008 Sage
SAGE, author of the book "Mirror of Love: Shifting into Higher Consciousness," is an intuitive reader, teacher and speaker who shares the Ancient Essenes' spiritual wisdom of creating your own reality. She lives in the North Carolina mountains and can be reached at (828) 263-0848 or Mirror of

More personal development articles at the Counterpoint Article Library

From our extensive site, you'll find good info on many topics using this search:
The following paid service is the foundation of the work we do here at Trans4mind. Five years in the making, the training presents the very best we know in a modern, interactive video format. It's a phenomenal program to transform your life!

Trans4mind Training Trans4mind Personal Development Training
Personal development isn't intended to "fix" you, it's purpose is to empower you, to help you reach your full potential, to finally be yourself, living your true purpose - fulfilled, peaceful and prosperous. And this is the reason we created our main training program...

Trans4mind Training is an audio-visual, interactive online experience that's interesting and fun to participate in. Rather than telling you what to think, the video workshops encourage you to learn from yourself and your own life. This personalized training empowers you to create action steps that deliver powerful real-world results across all of your life challenges. It's profoundly effective and the best thing you can do to transform your life. We recommend you first do the Free Life Assessment to discover which aspects of your life are most challenging for you and therefore which are your top-priority workshops to do.

Learn more and do your Free Life Assessment...

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

  • Public Speaking Fear ~ Banish speaking anxiety and nerves with hypnosis.
  • Motivate Yourself to Exercise ~ Build a powerful exercise habit that you can't break.
  • Get Rid of Fear & Anxiety ~ Stop worry and apprehension wrecking your life.
  • Self Esteem ~ Break the negative trance of low self esteem and give yourself a chance in life.
  • Create Your Own Reality ~ Use the power of your unconscious mind to transform your life.
  • Deeper Self Respect ~ Use hypnosis to connect with your true inner worth.
  • Detach From Fear ~ Tune out nervousness and anxiety with hypnosis.
  • Improving Concentration and Focus ~ Learn how to discipline, direct and command your mind to improve your performance.
  • Exercise Motivation ~ Give you powerful keys to getting back on track with your exercise - and staying there.
  • Overcoming Shyness ~ Provides an invisible security blanket allowing you to develop social ease and overcome shyness.
  • Quick Confidence Booster ~ An audio hypnosis session that's specifically designed to get you (quickly!) back on track.
  • Stop Negative Thoughts ~ Learn powerful hypnotic techniques to stop negative thoughts before they start.
  • Overcoming Procrastination ~ Let hypnosis help you get on with what you need to do, when you need to do it. Let nothing hold you back.
  • Think Thin ~ Use hypnosis to re-train your brain and lose weight naturally... that's how to get and stay slim.
  • Fall Asleep Fast ~ Relearn how to fall asleep fast and enjoy a good night's sleep.
  • The Next Level ~ Designed to radically boost your performance in any field. It's based on a technique used by top athletes and other successful people to help them make a big stride forward.
This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...
Get a free Hypnosis Download at Facebook

Welcome to the New Wave in Meditation Technology

Click here to learn more about the iAwake Profound Meditation Program
The iAwake Profound Meditation Program
is a way of enhancing your meditation practice, making meditation not only easier and more enjoyable, but also more efficient and effective.
Profound Meditation provides the smoothest, deepest, richest, most profound meditation experience available anywhere...
Here is a link to a free 20-minute track from iAwake Technologies - a sample of the type of tools that will deepen your meditation immediately and help you quickly become a successful meditator. It's the opening track of iAwake's flagship product, the Profound Meditation Program, called the iAwake Experience...
Learn More and Download the iAwake Experience
I think you'll find this technology a tremendous aid on your transformative journey of becoming your best and most creative self - and you can get started today!
Copyright © 1997-2016 Trans4mind Ltd