How Couples in a Healthy Relationship
Resolve Conflict
By Clark Thomas
If you want to maintain a healthy relationship, you need to put in an effort. There is no easy workaround to having a relationship in which you and your partner, both are happy. It requires effort from both of you. Hence, it can get upsetting if you find you and your partner disagree on something. You may have different interests, hobbies, and personality. You may not agree on things 100% of the time. But this does not mean that you are incompatible or that you can’t be together. Remember that disagreements are a natural part of every relationship. Hence, what matters is how you deal with conflict, how you approach it, and how you plan to resolve it. Instead of exacerbating the problem, couples in a healthy relationship work towards finding a solution.
Often disagreements can escalate to conflicts. Knowing what to do prevents the trouble that follows when you drag an argument for too long. Here are a few tips that partners in a healthy relationship follow to resolve conflict:
They listen to their partners and try to understand them
Partners, in a healthy relationship, communicate with each other. They employ active listening skills and try to understand their partner’s point of view. The reason for conflict can arise when one partner’s needs are not fulfilled. Listening to your partner is half the deal. In a healthy relationship, partners put in the effort to gain an understanding of each other’s insecurities and motivations. It helps them get to the bottom of things when a conflict occurs.
Without this approach, it can result in outbreaks. The essential thing is to get to the heart of the matter. If your partner is upset at you for coming home late, it could be because they want to spend time with you. Hence, listening to your partner involves more than just what they are saying.
You need to understand their point. Respect your partner when they want to talk to you. So turn off the TV, put your phone away, and give your undivided attention to your partner.
They do not let emotions get the better of them
Emotions such as anger and resentment can take the best of you when you are in disagreement. However, when people in a healthy relationship face conflict, they avoid this at all costs. They remain rational and maintain a level-head. It is natural to feel angry when your partner does not agree with you. Despite this, you must keep a cool head and take control of your emotions. Patience is fundamental in this. If you raise your voice, your partner will be compelled to raise their voice too. It only makes matters worse.
Hence, if you start feeling angry, leave the room. Come back to the topic once both of you have cooled down.
They present their point of view clearly
When in an argument with your partner, you need to express yourself. Understanding your partner is equally important as having your partner understand you. Say what you think and feel, without feeling pressured to hide your opinion. Don’t beat around the bush or give hints to your partner. Be honest and open about your point of view. If you are clear about what you’re saying, your partner will appreciate it.
However, maintain a polite tone when expressing yourself. If you are in a healthy relationship, talking to your partner about your feelings should not be difficult. In fact, you should feel comfortable.
They accept their partner for who they are
Acceptance is the foundation of a healthy and happy relationship. Nobody’s perfect. If you want to stay with your partner, appreciate them for their qualities and their flaws. There are chances that despite your shortcomings, your partner accepts you, as well. Hence, trust your partner for who they are, including their personality, what they like, what they don’t like. Being in a healthy relationship means that you don’t force your partner to change for you.
When in a conflict, it is easy to find faults in your partner. You must not let this become the focus of your argument. Instead, focus on the issue at hand.
They forgive and let go
Partners in a healthy relationship learn to move on. They do not hold onto what their partner said during the conflict. They work to improve their relationship and try to avoid conflict on the same issue. Hence, forgiving each other and letting go of an argument is vital for a meaningful relationship. It develops trust. Partners in unhealthy relationships tend to spy on their partners using apps like Xnspy. It means that there is a lack of trust and that they haven’t forgiven their partner. Such an attitude is toxic to a relationship.
Even if one of you was right in the argument, it doesn’t mean that you should assert it. Be humble about it, and give your partner the space to understand the situation on their own. Do not make it look like you were right all along. If you were right about something, and your partner acknowledges it, then be happy, don’t brag about it. If you don’t forgive and forget things, it can be difficult for you to trust your partner in the future. Hence, you may depend on tools like Xnspy to spy on your partner long after you resolved the conflict.
They apologize when they are wrong
Partners in a healthy relationship do not shy away from admitting they were wrong; they apologize the moment they register their fault. You must apologize if you realize that your tone was too loud, you were rude, or you were wrong. You’ll partner will appreciate you for it. They wouldn’t humiliate you just because they were right and you were wrong.
Remember…
As I said, conflicts happen in every relationship. You must not let it affect your relationship. If you want a healthy relationship with your partner, focus on uplifting each other rather than dragging each other down. But most importantly, allow each other to form opinions, ideas, and thoughts. It is perfectly natural for partners to have different personalities and still have love and compassion for one another. So be kind, and be respectful.