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Create Links to Communicate at Your Best

By Sue Otis

Have you ever asked yourself how you can get others to understand you more easily? You thought: "This is so important, I don't want them to misunderstand my meaning!"

Have you ever said to yourself: "He doesn't understand a word of what I'm saying anyway!" with a feeling of disgust or criticism?

Let's face it, communicating is tough! It's like dialing a number, but dialing in the wrong order. I'm sure you have felt this. Try this out, as an example... On a scale from 1 to 10, ten being the best, how would you rate these?

  1. Your communication with your spouse or partner
  2. Your relationship with your children
  3. Your ability to understand others and their point of view
Now, what kind of difference would it make if you knew the keys that could unlock those tough doors of communication? Knowing and using these keys on a daily basis is very possible, when you discover exactly how to create links to communicate at your best. (Others call it getting rapport. I call it creating links.) Without these keys, you can't really learn superior communication.

The human potential is unlimited and good communication with your husband, your wife, daughter, son, friend or boss can definitively be achieved. It's a fact, studies show that 95% of unemployment is due to poor relationship and communication skills but only 5% is due to bad technical skills. Communication is vital to success.

Communication skills have tremendous value when seeking a leadership position, a manager's position or a successful marriage; they are priceless. Learning superior communication is the ultimate security in a very un-secure world. Your ability to achieve effective communication through the power of language is truly the equivalent of modern day alchemy. It's like transforming lead into gold.

When you master interpersonal communication skills and create links with others, you can accelerate a career, make better profits, attract more clients, build customer relationships of trust, gain expert recognition, produce high impact, avoid a divorce or deal with it toward a much more positive outcome.

So what kind relationship do you want to improve? And with whom do you want to create links? Imagine the feeling of confidence you'll have knowing how to create a positive impact on other people's life and get your ideas across the first time.

When I first understood that the first key to effective communication is to know myself, I couldn't believe it. You see, most people think that it's the other person's fault... "He doesn't understand! He's stupid or what? Didn't I already explain it to him twice? I can't believe how slow he is! He's too emotional."

The mistake most people make is that they judge others who are have a different style of personality and thus communicate inappropriately, thinking and feeling that the other person is wrong, inept, lazy, rude, sloppy, or tense.

Communication is the response you get. Wrong response? Then change your strategy. You just communicated the wrong way. Suddenly, the point of focus has changed. It is not about them anymore, it is about you!

When you integrate that and make it your train of thought, you begin to act and think like a master achiever and great communicator. Imagine being one of them. Trust me, they knew that key a long time ago. That's what enabled them to arrive where they are now. They know themselves and understand others, their needs, their wants, and are instantly capable of linking with them. So they got the sale, the raise, and the respect.

Knowing yourself is the number one key for effective communication. When you know your learning style and how you perceive the world around you, you are on your way to being a great communicator.

Copyright © 2006 Sue Otis, All Rights Reserved
Sue Otis is Founder of LINK Interpersonal Communication System
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