Top 5 Myths About Being an Escort
You've always wanted to spend an evening with an escort, but you're not sure what to expect. You don't want to feel like you're contributing to someone's exploitation, but you're also looking for a healthy way to explore your sexuality.
Don't worry -- escorting is a confusing industry, and people have tons of questions and misconceptions.
Let's clear up a few things about what it's really like to spend time with an escort.
Read on to see which of the assumptions you might have about escorts are incorrect.
1. They'll Do Anything and Everything
Just like everyone else, escorts have limits both in and out of the bedroom -- and those limits absolutely must be respected.
If they aren't, the escort has the right to immediately terminate the session without giving you any sort of a refund.
The best way to ensure that everyone feels comfortable is to ask an escort what their limits are and to describe the kinds of things you're interested in trying with them.
You should also certainly bring up your own. (If you need a little guidance here, we highly suggest giving this article on limits a quick read.)
This way, everyone is on the same page and you can both relax and enjoy the experience.
2. They're Single
Lots of people assume that escorts aren't in a relationship, either because they don't want one or because they might struggle to find a partner that accepts what they do.
However, that's far from the truth!
Many escorts are in happy, successful, and healthy relationships that function just like everyone else's. Their partner knows what they do and sees it as a profession.
That's why it's important for you as a client to remember that you're not trying to make the escort fall in love with you, nor does hiring mean that they're your girlfriend/boyfriend. Most people understand this, but other clients can take their obsession and interference with the escorts they work with to an unhealthy and disrespectful level.
Don't be that person.
3. They're Doing It out of Desperation
This one is huge.
Many people feel nothing but pity for escorts, believing that they've been forced to be in the industry either against their will or out of sheer desperation.
And while this certainly shouldn't minimize the negative sides of sex work and forced prostitution, it's also important to note that many men and women work as escorts because they genuinely enjoy it.
Instead, they like the thrill of it, the dressing up, the wining and dining, and the chance to meet and connect with new people. They enjoy that the profession allows them to travel, experience more freedom with their time, and they enjoy the physical side of things, too.
Don't be so quick to label the escorts you meet with as "poor things" that you have to "save."
4. Escorting is Their Only Job
Another common misconception about escorts is that providing these services is the only kind of work they do.
Escorts often have day jobs and successful careers, and work in the industry to make extra money or simply because they enjoy it. Don't be surprised if you meet an escort who works in nonprofits, business, or runs their own creative enterprise.
Most people love the flexibility that escorting offers them, and often use it to finance important personal side projects.
That's why you can feel safe and relaxed knowing that your discretion is a priority for the escorts and escorting service you work for. Everyone has professional and personal relationships and roles they'd like to protect.
Additionally, escorting pays a variety of different wages depending on the location, services, and more. Many escorts simply can't make a living off of escorting alone, and may not want to.
5. Escorts are Only Female
Today, people are more open to the idea of experimenting sexually than ever before. Many people have multiple partners and want to sleep with both men and women.
If you're a man interested in booking a male escort service or a woman interested in a female escort service, there are plenty of options for you to choose from. (You can also find agencies in different areas that offer both at the same time!)
Remember, working with an escort service means paying a professional to make your fantasies come true. Never be ashamed to tell them what you're looking for -- you're not the first and you won't be the last.
Working with an escort is a wonderful way to explore a different side of your sexuality that you've always been curious about, but haven't yet had the chance to explore just yet.
Did Any of These Myths About Escorts Surprise You?
We hope that this quick myth-busting post on escorts has served as a reminder that, at the end of the day, sex workers and escorts are just people like everyone else.
You can and should always ask the escort you're working with any questions you have, as clear communication is perhaps the most important part of your evening.
Curious about what to look for in a good escort agency? Are you currently in a relationship, but clearly (since you're reading this post) looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Want to talk to your partner about opening your relationship?
No matter what kind of romantic advice you need, our blog is here to give it to you without judgments.
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