How to Avoid Stress When
You Meet New People
By Mark Meyer
The moments before meeting someone new can bring feelings of both excitement and anxiety. The dating scene has evolved from the simple use of word of mouth to using online platforms and dating apps to find someone to date. According to Dating Advice survey, 66% of users have dated someone they met online.
With thousands upon thousands of people enlisting their profiles looking to find love, you can never be too sure if the person whose profile you’re looking at is using his or her real names let alone their real photos. The uncertainty of who you are meeting can raise hairs and cause sweaty hands. So what can you do to avert the anxiety and stress when meeting new people? Here are some useful tips to that:
The morning of the meeting and a few minutes before the actual meeting take some time in silence and meditate. Sit comfortably, take deep breaths and clear your mind. Breathing slowly and deeply helps to calm your nerves and eliminate the stress. Think of it this way as you breathe during meditation, you are breathing in strength, peace, and confidence, and breathing out anxiety and stress.
You can take as many deep breaths as you wish as long as it is not less than three. The emphasis to meditate twice is so that you leave no chance of getting anxious or stressed again during the meeting. During this time of meditation, you can envision in your mind how you want the meeting to go. Think of how fun you think the person is going to be, how much both of you will laugh and enjoy, how delicious the food and drinks will be. Envision everything that you desire.
Thereafter you will notice that you feel more relaxed and significantly less stressed. You will have a sense of calm that lasts throughout the day.
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This can easily be done by conducting a reverse phone lookup. You key in the phone contacts and the reverse phone lookup report is sent back to you showing the name and address of the person you are about to meet. Go ahead and cross reference the information on this report with information provided in the profile of the man or woman you are set to meet.
If everything checks out, then you know that you are safe. On the other hand, if the report shows a different name from the one provided by the person you are set to meet, then this serves as a red flag that should be taken very seriously.
It is advisable to do this a day earlier before you arrive at the agreed place where you are both supposed to meet. This is to avoid the inconvenience of finding out that the person you are about to meet was in one way or another untruthful after you have already gone out of your way by spending time and money.
There’s nothing that throws off a person more than another person trying too hard when you meet for the first time. Things can turn awkward pretty quick and you’ll be left wondering what you did wrong. It is imperative that you show your genuine self to the person you’re meeting without embellishing too much. From your looks, the way you talk, eat, down to your likes and dislikes, be yourself.
The benefit of being genuine is that you know that if the meeting goes well, the girl or guy will like you for who you truly are as opposed to who they think you are because of the information you give them concerning yourself. During the conversation, you’ll probably ask each other questions, about family, education, finances, place of birth and so on. Many people in relationships break up within a few months of dating after finding out that the person they are with is not who they thought.
To be honest, one can only pretend for so long, with time your true self starts to show up. Global research by Opinionmatters shows that 53% of people lie on their online profile. This is quite fine if you were yourself from the onset, but things may end up working against you if your better half finds out that you’ve been pretending this whole time.
In addition, if the person you are meeting does not appeal to you physically or emotionally, it is ok to be genuine to yourself and let him or her go. Do not continue seeing a person because you feel bad and do not want to hurt their feelings or you assume that they will change with time. This is a terrible path to follow and things never end well for anyone.
With the above guidance, you should be able to have a swift, fun-filled but stress-free first meeting. Remember not to be too hard on yourself. There’s always a very high chance that the person you are about to meet is just as stressed as you are. Focus on enjoying yourself and having a great time and you never know, this might be the person you spend the rest of your life with.
About the author — Mark Meyer works as the content manager at Spokeo. His field of expertise includes business, marketing, and self-improvement. In his spare time, he enjoys hiking and surfing.
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