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True Love

Many of us have wondered about love at some point in our lives. Everyone's experience of love is unique; love can take on different forms, shapes, and sizes. But how can one be sure if it’s true love? There are various definitions of love in today's culture. All of this is on display in the films we've seen, the books we've read, the spiritual views we have, and the websites we've frequented. However, infatuation is often misunderstood as love, which can result in painful heartbreak. Here, we'll go through some of the signs that your love is genuine.

The Difference Between True Love and Infatuation

It can be difficult to tell the difference between true love and infatuation. Both are powerful emotions in response to another person's presence in one's life. That's why it can be a little perplexing. Differentiating true love and infatuation requires deeper understanding of oneself’s perspective of both. 

Many would base it on their experiences rather than feelings, and others would base it on the things they have read and the stories they have heard. The inspirational stories through daily Bible reading may gain another perspective to different individuals searching for what true love really is. 

The dictionary definition of infatuation is "a feeling of foolish or obsessively strong love for, admiration for, or interest in someone or something." When you are infatuated with someone, you are unable to control feelings of intense, irrational attraction. Infatuation typically occurs at the beginning of a relationship when sexual attraction is prominent.

Conversely, the dictionary defines true love as "a warm affection, passion, or devotion to another person." Love is typically developed slowly over many years of spending time with and learning about another person.

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Signs of True Love

There are many ways you can tell if a person is your true love. We listed here 3 common signs of true love:

  1. They make you feel safe. Safety is an important aspect of any relationship. If your partner never causes you harm, you can rest easy knowing you're safe in your relationship.You are not being coerced into doing anything and can act and speak as you like. This is true to different kinds of relationships. May it be friends, your workmates, and even your family. The right kind of relationship is the kind that will make you feel safe around them, and within yourself. 
  2. They love you for who you are. You don’t have to change for them, and they will often encourage you to do your own thing. 
  3. Communication is easy with them. When talking to them, you can expect an open and honest exchange of views. They would listen to you and your ideas, even if they differ, since they value you as an individual. In their company, you feel safe enough to share your deepest, darkest, and most personal thoughts and emotions.

Critical Signs It’s Not True Love

Love is a beautiful thing, but it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. Here are 3 signs you should look out for when you are in a relationship with someone:

  1. They make you feel unimportant or used. Throughout your partnership, you have not felt supported. You may feel unappreciated when you're in their company. It's possible they're not giving you the time or attention you deserve.
  2. You're more often unhappy, confused, and insecure. The negative feelings they make you feel outweigh the positive ones. They don't bother to get in touch with you, and you're probably not high on their list of concerns. 
  3. They appear to be driven by hidden agendas. They may approach you with malicious intent, intending to cause you harm or take advantage of you.

How to Cultivate True Love Relationships

With this newfound understanding of what true love is, how can we better cultivate love within ourselves and in our relationships? Here are some things you and your partner can do to build a strong and healthy relationship

  • Stay in touch. That doesn’t mean you have to be with each other 24/7. Just remember to communicate frequently throughout the day. Even if you're both incredibly busy, try to find time to be together privately.
  • Give each other freedom. Recognizing that different people have different requirements for their social lives and their need for solitude can help couples tremendously. Give yourselves some space by not trying to micromanage your partner's every action.
  • Regularly express gratitude and affection. Don’t wait for special occasions. Remind them everyday of how much you appreciate them by doing small things that are meaningful. Make a habit of frequently expressing affection and gratitude.

True Love or Not?

To experience true love is both a wonderful and painful thing. Most of the time, it is confused with infatuation. The distinction between the two is subtle, but knowing it will help us tremendously with our relationships. Determine whether the love you feel is genuine by looking for the telltale signs. Ultimately, if the relationship doesn't work out, it could be a hint that you need to focus more on yourself. Gain confidence from inspirational stories so you can be inspired and loved within. A healthy relationship with oneself is always favorable in the long run.

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