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How to Save a Struggling Relationship?

Save a Struggling Relationship

Relationships are hard. There's no magic formula for keeping them healthy; they take a lot of work. Even if you're in a fantastic relationship and everything is going perfectly, it's important to remember that relationships require constant attention to stay healthy.

Sometimes we think our partners will magically know what we need from them without having to tell them—and then when something terrible happens, we're surprised that our partner doesn't understand how upset we are about it.

But being honest with your partner about what you need and want is one of the most important things you can do for the health of your relationship! In this post, I'll talk about ways to save or improve your relationship by communicating clearly and honestly with your partner.

Don't Wait for a Crisis Before Taking Action

You can't predict when or if a crisis will happen, but you can prepare for it. Don't wait until a significant conflict comes up to figure out how you and your partner communicate with each other. If you notice minor problems in the relationship, deal with them before they become more significant. 

An example would be if your partner frequently mentions being upset by something and never tells you what it is; ask them what's on their mind so that they know this is an essential issue for you to address together. Other proactive ways of saving the relationship include:

  • Talking about your needs and expectations in advance
  • Meeting regularly for date nights or shared activities like going shopping or watching a movie together
  • Building time into each week when both of you spend time alone doing whatever makes each of your happy

Talk to Your Partner

When you're in a relationship with someone and having problems, it can be tempting to just work through them on your own. However, there's something important you need to remember: no matter what the issue is, it's not just about you. Your partner needs to be given a chance to talk as well.

When talking with your partner, start off with what you want from the relationship and how much of that is realistic or possible for them. Then ask them what they want from their relationship and how much of that could realistically happen for themselves in terms of time spent together or shared activities.

 This will help both of you feel like both sides are being heard and understood before any compromises or decisions are made regarding how things should move forward, which should always be done after taking into account any personal reasons why one person might need more space than another.

If this doesn't solve all issues between partners who struggle at times but still love each other very much, then consider couples therapy sessions where professional counselors can help resolve lingering disagreements quickly without too much stress on either party involved.

Seek Help

If you feel like the relationship is at a breaking point, it may be time to consider outside help. A therapist or counselor can help you get some perspective and figure out what needs to change for the relationship to work. A good therapist will be able to ask hard questions without judgment so that you can begin working on ways to improve communication and intimacy.

You should also lean on friends, family members, ministers, or priests for advice when things are tough. This doesn't mean that you're failing—people who love each other often need others' perspectives before they can see how they might make their relationships work better!

If your relationship suffers from a lack of sex, look into the underlying problem. Is the sex bad because you're both uncomfortable with each other? Then spend enough time getting to know each other. However, if it is serious, such as smaller penis size, consider medical help, such as permanent penis enlargement. A permanent enlargement can make the sex satisfactory for both the partners and help you enjoy the moment, thereby improving your relationship. The bottom line is to find the root cause and fix the issue.

Ask Yourself What You Can Do to Make Things Better

Ask yourself what you can do to make things better. Be specific about what you can do. If your partner wants you to be less negative toward them, they may not expect you to make hundreds of positive comments daily, but they will appreciate any improvements in your attitude.

Be realistic about what you can do. If your partner criticizes the way that you take care of the house or car, don't expect that they'll suddenly stop doing so themselves, even if it feels like a burden for both of you; instead, try talking about some changes that might help out both parties' workloads without causing resentment like splitting up chores.

Make sure that the changes are within your control—if neither person has power over another person's moods or temperamental issues, there isn't much point in trying to fix those problems directly since there isn't anything anyone can do about it. 

Instead, focus on improving other areas in which both parties have influence: perhaps one person doesn't listen well enough when their partner tries explaining something important; maybe one person needs more encouragement when they're feeling anxious or depressed; maybe both partners need to practice communicating effectively with each other so as not to get frustrated quickly when misunderstandings arise between them often.

Find Out If You're Meeting Your Partner's Needs

One of the best ways to ensure you're meeting your partner's needs is by asking them. Ask them what they want in a relationship and what they need from you, then listen with an open mind. You're probably not going to get things right all the time, but you'll learn a lot about what works for each other if you communicate well.

We all have different personalities and preferences when it comes to relationships. Some people prefer being single, while others would die without their significant other next to them every day. And even if we aren't big fans of change, sometimes we just have to accept it for what it is—including having some tough conversations about how our lives are changing as our relationships progress.

Recognize That Relationships Take Effort and Compromise

Of course, a relationship takes effort. But it's not always easy. Compromise is essential to relationships of any kind. It requires both people to give up something they want to make the other person happy. 

How does this work? Well, if you're used to getting your way all the time and don't like compromising your desires, then it won't be fun for either of you.

I will repeat this: compromise isn't always easy, fun, fair, or equal. It's what sometimes happens when two people decide they care enough about each other's happiness that they're willing to sacrifice something for their partner's sake.


Don't wait for a crisis before taking action. Take time to talk with your partner about what's happening and listen to their side. If you're having trouble with communication in general, try keeping a journal or sharing your thoughts with a friend who will be honest with you about what they hear from you. 

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