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Start Playing with Sex Toys

Does the idea of your husband or wife using sex toys turn you on? Don't feel ashamed about it. Exploring and playing with sex toys is normal — it's healthy and it improves your relationship too.

However, some people feel too embarrassed to bring the topic up with their partner. Others feel uncertain about how to use sex toys and how to incorporate them into their love lives.

We're here to give you a guiding hand. Read these five tips to properly introduce sex toys to your relationship, guaranteeing safety and fun:

Talk About It

The first step to introduce sex toys is to establish communication. Don't surprise your wife or husband with one. Doing so can put you on the wrong foot forward.

Discussing sexual desires and things you want to experiment with is a healthy practice for couples. If playing with sex toys can help spruce up your sex life, there's no shame in bringing it up.

Make sure you discuss before, during, and after intercourse. Ask about the experience with your partner and determine what you and they liked, disliked, or want to try again with different parameters.

Start with the Basics

Having sex with toys can become a fulfilling experience. However, you shouldn't jump the shark and buy the biggest dildo you can find! 

Go with something basic first. Feel free to experiment and try out different toys to feel different sensations and sex play. Get used to something before moving ahead with bigger, more experimental toys.

Maintain Safety

Have fun with an adult sex toy but don't get too carried away. Always maintain a level of safety. Don't push toys too deep, stop when your partner complains, and use a safe word when "stop" is a term that turns you on.

Make sure you buy non-porous toys that you can easily clean and wash. Make it a habit to clean toys immediately after using them to prevent germs and bacteria from growing and infecting them. 

When buying sex toys, always do your research too. Check reviews of the manufacturer and toy brand. 

Explore, Explore, Explore

Keep in mind that sex toys aren't simply dildos and vibrators. There are sex toys for men too. Even the toys for women go beyond the usual suspects and you'll find creative things like ball gags, clitoris teasers, plugs, and more!

And there are sex chairs! These make a perfect addition to anyone's sex toy collection, perfect for people with mobility or strength problems but also opening up a whole world of restraint and position options, perfect for partner play but also used to ride solo - check out the best sex chair.

Take time to explore and try new things. As mentioned, start with the basics and then work your way around. You might even enjoy sex toys that don't directly interact with you and your partner's private areas!

Respect Boundaries

Safety isn't the only thing to remember. Before you even start playing with sex toys, discuss boundaries. Your partner might not want to try certain toys or certain types of play.

Yes, it can get fun to push those boundaries but don't cross the line. Always have a safe word and don't ask for too much. Having sex with toys should be a fun experience for both parties involved.

Start Playing with Sex Toys!

Keep your love life sparkling and start playing with sex toys! They're normal and engaging. There's nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about them and these five tips can help you introduce them to your relationship!

Of course, playing with the right toys is only the beginning. Fortunately, we've got a lot of other articles you can read to pick up even more lifestyle and relationship tips and tricks. Feel free to read them today!

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