How You Can Cope with an Early Divorce
and Move Forward
In 2020, there were around 630,505 divorces in the United States. That’s a rate of 2.3 per 1,000 population. This rate has decreased over the past ten years. However, divorces are still very common, but more importantly, they are tough to get over.
Even if you're the one filing for divorce, it's normal to feel a sense of loss and sadness. You might even have trouble sleeping or adjusting to the changes in your life. However, there are ways to cope with an early divorce and move on. Here’s how.
Surround Yourself with People Who Give You Positive Energy
It is necessary to surround yourself with people who give you positive energy to thrive in an environment that's trying to bring you down. Unfortunately, this may not be as easy as it sounds.
Many of us have friends and family members who simply don't understand what we're going through or are just not empathetic enough to put themselves in our shoes. This is why you must look for like-minded individuals who can offer the support and comfort that you need during this difficult time.
Seek Help from a Therapist
It’s natural to want to avoid talking about what you’re going through. You might feel embarrassed or ashamed about your situation, or it isn't serious enough for a therapist.
However, therapists are trained to help people cope with emotional trauma and work through difficult feelings, including those stemming from an early divorce. A therapist can help you process your feelings and emotions while developing a plan to move forward positively.
It's best to find a therapist specializing in relationship and separation-related issues. These therapists are experienced in handling such cases and can surely provide you with the comfort and direction you need to move forward in life. Know that one or two sessions with the therapist won’t do. It’s a continuous process, and you must consult with them until you’re ready to move on.
Engage in Different Hobbies and Interests
After you've spent so much time with your partner and have gotten used to a life together, it can be hard to find new hobbies and interests. If you do not want to just sit around at home doing nothing all day, try finding a new activity or interest that will help you explore your creativity.
You may want to try taking classes at the local library or community center to learn something new. You can even turn to artistic hobbies or maybe try and regrow your interest in some old hobbies. The goal is to focus on other things in life, and you have the right to do so however you want.
Divorce rates often depend on occupation. It’s been found that people working in the entertainment industry and services like bartending and nursing have higher chances of divorcing their partners.
You might end up thinking that your job is to blame for your divorce. However, there are several other factors that go into a divorce. The goal now is to get some time off from work and focus on other things so that it doesn’t remind you of the separation you’re dealing with.
Don't Let Anger and Sadness Consume You
You'll be feeling a lot of different emotions, but most likely, sadness and anger are two that will stick with you for some time. You may cry frequently or even burst into tears at the slightest trigger. That's okay. It's a normal reaction to the stress and uncertainty of divorce.
However, don't let these emotions consume you. Don't let them affect your job or your relationships with friends and family. Don't wallow in self-pity. None of it will help you move on. Find new interests that will occupy your time so that you can feel like this is an opportunity rather than something holding you back from living life to its fullest potential.
Go on a Trip with Friends or Family Members
The best thing that you can do to refresh your mind is to go on a trip with friends or family members. Traveling is a great way to escape the stress of your life, and it also allows you to meet new people and make new friends. You may not feel like going on vacation right now, but if you take some time off of work, it will allow for some much-needed relaxation before jumping back into your busy schedule.
Taking time for yourself is important for healing to begin. While spending time away from home might seem like a setback at first glance, it’s actually an important step forward in coping with divorce. Doing so enables individuals to get out of their comfort zones by exploring new places and trying new activities.
The U.S. has one of the highest divorce rates in the world. It comes behind countries like Russia and Belarus. As discussed earlier, the divorce rate is decreasing, but that’s hardly the problem. What matters the most is that those going through this situation need to know how to cope with it in the best and healthiest ways possible.
It's important to remember that it's not just about going through the motions but also about finding happiness in the present moment. Some of us are more resilient than others when it comes to coping with life’s challenges. However, no matter your situation, there are always ways to help yourself through a divorce, even when it’s an early one.