How to Combat the Physical and Mental
Side Effects of Divorce?
By Bronte Price
Divorces are nasty. Parting ways with someone whom you have admired once is really painful. A life partner is said to be the confidante or soul mate whom we choose for a lifetime. But there are times when marriages don’t work even if they have followed the legal laws of marriage and you have to get separated from your partner. It shuffles your world upside down. It tears you apart both physically and mentally.
There are times when people just lost focus in life and head to nowhere after getting divorced. And as a result, they develop some severe mental or physical health problems in life. These issues can cause severe damage to them, if not terminated immediately.
Whether the divorces are with mutual understanding or because of rough patches in life, it comes with the same pain and side effects. One must find ways to combat these side effects to avoid more complications in life.
Methods to combat the physical and mental side effects of Divorce...
Accord a break to life
Set yourself free from all the tensions for some time and take care of yourself. Engage yourself in the activities you love to do the most. Say no to the negative thoughts. Invest some me time and allow your wounds to heal. This me time could be anything, you can develop new hobbies, present yourself a peaceful vacation, discover yourself with a new idea of life and a more.
Just feel confident about yourself, and remember you have the power to overcome miserable than worst situations in life; this is just a divorce.
Feel free to share your feelings
It is ok to feel sad or broken for your divorce. It is ok to get mixed feelings about your former spouse. It is ok to get depressed about the situation. Everyone goes through this. But dealing with all these emotions alone is a bad idea. Isolation with the world may lead to an increased stress level and nothing more.
Speak with your family and friends about your feelings. Sharing your thoughts with them will definitely help you in getting out of it. They will surely empathize with you and encourage you with better ways to deal with the situation. You can even join the different support groups where you can share your experiences, get to know about others dealing with the same and seek help or advice for a better life. Also, there are many divorce counselors that guide you to come out of repellent situations.
It is very essential to understand that you are not stuck in the situation forever. The tough days are going to end. Again there will be happy days knocking your door. Always be positive about what happened to you. Remember the quote” All happens for a good”. The forthcoming time is going to be better than the best. Life has saved a hamper of pleasant surprises for you.
The positive thoughts about life will definitely help you cope with critical situations in life. You may understand that the change happened is for good and you have entire sea remaining to swim without defeating.
Prioritize your children over all
Remember, it’s not only you who is suffering. Your kids are also passing through the tough times. The divorce of parents is very traumatic for children. Even they feel insecure and stressed about the situation.
Act maturely in front of them and make them feel safe with you. Your children should never feel that the marriage system is awful to be in. Take care of their wellbeing and discuss the positivity of life with them. There are certain ways you can take care of their mental health.
Also, you can take them to a counselor to help them overcome the situation. As children might not open up about their stress and feelings with you in order to lessen your wounds. The counselor can help them to speak out their hearts and give them a suggestion on a positive life.
We understand that you are going through a tough phase. But, there is no point in making the situation more complex for you and everyone else. Try to cope with the circumstances and find a way to live life. You have to accept what has happened and begin a new chapter for life. Maybe consider reverting to your maiden name or changing your name completely to help you move on. Now how long it will take to change your name legally will depend on where you are, but as the people in Ez Name Change beautifully put it, “If you don’t start, it will take you forever.”
Grow with change. Looking forward to new opportunities will energize you to build a flourishing future. Moving on will give a positive turn to your life. It will be easier for you to accept the change and deal with it smoothly.
Do not compromise on health
Divorce can affect you both physically and mentally. You may feel stressed and develop other health issues like nausea, headache, insomnia and a lot more. But, don’t let all these problems ruin your health. Consult a doctor to overcome the issues, maintain your daily routine, avoid unnecessary drugs and alcohol, consume a proper diet and perpetrate all the other stuff to keep yourself healthy.
Notify your doctor about your feelings and issues. They will definitely help you get purge from the situation immediately. Participate in different health management courses to overcome your health issues smoothly.
Hence, here we end up with our suggestions on how to combat the mental and physical side effects of divorce. Hope it has proposed some guidance for you and helped you come out of the stress of a divorce.
Australia's Bronte Price is the first-ever certified gay celebrant from the continent that now boasts of marriage equality. He is also the co-founder of an Equality Network that caters any LGBT wedding needs by creating a better experience through wedding suppliers. As a member of the GLOBE (Gay and Lesbian Organization for Business and Enterprise), he works tirelessly to empower the LGBT community.
Bronte’s website Gay Celebrant Melbourne is a stunning example of his dedication for celebrancy that unites the power of love. Apart from that, his fiancée Clint and their four-legged fur baby, Bingo, are Bronte's quintessential lifelines. He is also passionate about volunteering as a newsreader at Joy 94.9 and spending time in his organic backyard comes a close second.