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Happy Parents, Happy Kids

When speaking about some of the most challenging jobs in the world, the job of a devoted parent rarely comes up. Unjustifiably, we might add. The job of a parent is full-time - you can’t take a break. Not literally, of course. You know what I mean, you can’t want the job for two days and then not want it for three. It simply doesn’t work like that. Being such, it is well underrated. And sometimes what happens is that parents are overwhelmed with all their obligations, so they end up losing themselves somewhere along the way.

However, it is crucial not to let this happen. What happens when you lose yourself is that you are not happy. And if you are not happy, your family is not happy either. So, for the wellbeing of your family as well as harmony in your home, you should do your best to be happy. Only then will you be able to bring up your kids in the best way possible. Self-love and self-care every day are a basis for good parenting practice, so keep that in mind.

  1. Set some boundaries and be strict about them

If you think that kids prefer lenient parents, who often don’t respect the limitations they themselves have set, think again. First of all, good parents should have authority over their kids. Kids need some boundaries, so it’s important to set them. These boundaries might refer to candy before dinner, bedtime, bathing, picking up clothes and toys, and other things as they get older. You should start with setting some basic limitations from an early age, so they can get used to them. It will be more difficult if you don’t do so. Along with these goes being strict about respecting them.

Kids can be manipulative and they can play you. You shouldn’t allow that, because they might not respect you then. For instance, many parents struggle with making kids go to kindergarten. What happens is that, especially at the initial period, kids often cry in the morning and don’t want to go. Some parents want to avoid all the fuss and let them stay at home or wherever. They do that one, two, three times and what they end up with is a kid who does what they want and doesn’t respect what parents say. This is especially true if you say you’ll punish them for such behaviour and you end up not doing that. So, be mindful of this if you’re about to google ‘childcare centre near me’ and get your kid enrolled. Being prepared is half the success - bear that in mind.

  1. Talk to your kids

Communication should always be a priority as it is possible to solve all kinds of issues only by communicating. In this modern digital age, it is particularly important as we often dive our heads into our phones or laptops and somehow forget to communicate. We must teach our kids to speak to us. What you can do to avoid miscommunication is talk to your kids every day. Devote them at least some time every day to ask them about their day. Talk to them about what they did, how they felt and other trending things. Teach them to speak about the things that are troubling them. Teach them to be polite to other people as they can achieve so much more by being kind. In order for you to be able to teach them to communicate effectively, you need to communicate with them in the first place.

  1. Spend quality time with your kids

Happy Parents, Happy Kids

Similarly to the previous tip, besides devoting time to speaking to them, you should also spend some quality time with your kids. Today, many parents don’t have much free time on their hands. Sometimes they don’t even have time to share a meal with their kids. If this is the case, you should try really hard to make some time and have a meal together at least occasionally. This is vital especially for younger kids, as they seek attention. What happens if they don’t get the attention they’re seeking is that they might misbehave. In this case, you’ll surely pay attention to them.

However, having just meals together doesn’t actually qualify as quality time. You should designate one afternoon, evening or day a week when you’ll do something together as a family. Ask your kids about what they’d like to do and try to make it come true. Also, you can take a look online and find out more about some activities for kids and parents to enjoy together.

  1. Watch what you do - you are a role model to your kids

Kids are like sponges, they absorb everything they see and hear. From a very young age, they try to copy their parents, siblings and friends. That’s why it’s key that you are careful with your behaviour. We sometimes forget that kids watch and listen to everything we say, so we do something we wouldn’t want our kids to copy. When you have kids, you should always be on the lookout and mindful about everything you say or do.

You shouldn’t allow yourself to do anything you wouldn’t want your kids to do. They will best remember a certain behaviour if they see you doing it regularly. You should be proactive and always strive to model some positive traits such as kindness, responsibility, honesty, friendliness and tolerance in them. If you say one thing and do the other, they most likely won’t be so respectful and trustful to you. If you want your kids to live a healthy lifestyle, you should be an inspiration to them by showing them how it’s done.

  1. Show unconditional love

Even though this one seems easy and implied, it is not always the case. Kids make mistakes, like everybody else. You did too. However, what is important here is how you approach the issue. You should always remember that your task is to correct your kids’ wrongful behaviour as well as to guide them through life. Nevertheless, you should be mindful when doing it. In no case should you undermine their self-discipline with harsh criticism, blaming them or accenting their flaws. Your kids need to know and never doubt that you love them unconditionally. They also need to know that you expect them to do better next time.

Parenting is a special aspect of life that brings us plenty of joy and blissful moments, even though it sometimes doesn’t feel like it. There are also many difficult and challenging moments as well. But the truth is that most parents wouldn’t trade that role for anything else in the world.

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