Traditional child disciplining approaches are no longer successful for far too many young people. For example, a parent related the following to me after a discussion of how society and youth have changed in recent generations:
In many cases we resort to punishment as a strategy for motivation. This negative, coercive discipline and punishment approach is based on the belief that it is necessary to cause suffering to teach. It's like you need to hurt in order to instruct. For example, when kids misbehave, most parents send them to their room. However, coercion, as in punishment, is not a lasting change agent. Once the punishment is over, the child feels free and clear to do exactly what they want again.
The fact of the matter, however, is that people learn better when they feel better, not when they feel worse. Remember, if punishment were effective in reducing inappropriate behavior, then there would be NO discipline problems.
The irony of punishment is that the more you use it to control your children's behavior, the less real influence you have over them. This is because coercion breeds resentment. In addition, if your children behave because they are forced to behave, then you as a parent did not really succeed. Your children should behave because they want to--not because they have to in order to avoid punishment.
Internal motivation--where people want to change--is more lasting and effective than motivation by punishment. The way to influence people is through positive, non-coercive interaction. Here's how...
So, have high expectations for your children, motivate them to succeed and follow my tips above and you'll be able to "Discipline without Stress, Punishments or Rewards."
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