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Tips for Helping Children to Gain
Confidence and Independence

Have you ever heard that kids are like miniature adults? This is false. All kids have the potential to become productive members of society if given the opportunity. But they need guidance and encouragement from adults to grow into confident, independent, and respectable people.

One of the things that parents, other loved ones, and educators need to do is help kids become independent. It must be taught and demonstrated since actions speak louder than words. And some kids grasp this concept faster than others since children mature at different rates.

Keep reading to learn about 5 ways you can help children develop a sense of independence.

1. Set Predictable Routines

Setting routines is an essential part of helping kids to be independent. You might, at first glance, think that setting routines would run contrary to helping kids to become independent. But when children see structure, they’ll be better equipped to make decisions. 

Case in point: If children learn how to brush their teeth properly and learn to do so before school, after lunch, and before bedtime, they’ll become accustomed to the routine. They’ll understand why brushing their teeth is essential and will take the initiative to perform this task independently.

2. Allow Children to Assist

Another way to encourage independence is to allow children to help out. If you’re preparing breakfast, you may not want them to cook pancakes on the stove. But that doesn’t mean they can’t help to mix the batter, set the table, and even wash the dishes. 

If you’re vacuuming the living room, allow your children to arrange magazines on the coffee table. If you bring home groceries, let your little ones to assist in unloading the bags from the car, taking them to the kitchen, and putting them away. Allowing kids to help will enable them to see that their contributions matter.

3. Let Them Have Their Own Stuff

Your children also need to have their own stuff to gain independence. There should be some items that they can call their own such as toys, books, and clothes. And if you’re going to allow them to have their own stuff, go the extra mile by permitting your kids to express themselves. They can do this by choosing the colors, the materials, and the styles. Does your child need a new backpack? Find a backpack retailer that offers unique options. Your childen will be able to choose exactly what they want, which will allow them to express their individuality.

4. Assign Chores

Assign age-appropriate chores to children. Whether their chores involve washing dishes, bringing the hamper to the laundry room, mowing the lawn, or doing something else, your children will benefit. Being independent doesn’t mean being an island unto oneself. 

So, let your children know that their independence comes with responsibilities in and out of the home. They’ll gain confidence as they independently tackle the tasks you’ve assigned them. Ensure that you communicate appreciation and, where appropriate, reward their efforts.

5. Allow Kids to Manage Homework

You’ll want to help younger children keep up with their homework. But as they get older and better understand what's expected of them academically, shift the responsibility of doing homework and preparing for tests to your children.

Doing all of the above will help children to grow into independent people who are confident and self-reliant. No one knows your children better than you. So, as you help children become independent, ensure that you exercise patience and consider their abilities and maturity level.

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