Suffering, and Happiness
A paradox is a kind of puzzle or riddle. A paradox is a thought, belief, or statement that appears to be contradictory or absurd but in reality expresses a truth.
From time to time we all get caught up in the paradoxical differences between "What we think and what we feel", or "What we think is best and what we actually do."
You've come face to face with this paradox if you have ever said to yourself, "I know I really should be doing X (fill in the beneficial behavior of your choice), but for some reason I just can't get myself to do so."
Why is it that your thinking and your doing; your thinking and your feeling, sometimes seem to contradict each other? What is this contradiction about?
I ask these questions now because I believe the answers you give can help you suffer less and be happier overall.
It seems to me that in the course of living our lives most of us lose touch with what will truly bring us happiness. We come to think that our happiness depends on other people, our accomplishments, and the wealth and power we obtain. We get a good job, marry a nice person, and perhaps even buy a new house, but often, something is still missing, and something or other feels "off".
I believe this is so because we have yet to understand what the conditions are that lead to our truly feeling fulfilled. Indeed, it's often our current concept of happiness that winds up preventing us from being happy!
Borrowing from the concepts of Buddhism I offer you the following thoughts to ponder:
I wish you all the best, in your pursuit of happiness. Many wonderful experiences await you, and from time to time, a bit of suffering as well!
The well known Trappist monk Thomas Merton said, "The truth that many people never understand until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer, because small insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt."
He also said, "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony."
If you would like to be happier, and suffer less frequently, then you just might find that some coaching sessions can help you start on a new path.