Parenting & Life Changes
- "Parents In Love: Reclaiming Intimacy After Your Child Is Born" by Linda Salazar. There is no doubt that having children alters a couple's relationship and makes intimacy seem like an elusive goal. With Parents In Love, Linda Salazar gives coupes the tools necessary to open their hearts and minds, use the challenges of parenthood as a springboard for personal growth, and develop strong, loving marriages. Straightforward and reassuring, this book proves love can grow stronger while raising your children.
- "Evolution's End: Claiming the Potential of Our Intelligence" by Joseph Chilton Pearce. A critique of the way we raise our children and undermine our society's future from a pioneering thinker who speaks to the heart as well as the mind. Proposing crucial yet simple solutions, Pearce explains how we have the power to get out of our own way and unleash our human potential through the power of love, in making the connection to a higher, creative conciousness.
- "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by John Gottman & Joan Declaire. Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. This is an extremely interesting (and not only for parents but anyone who wants to know more about their childhoods as well) and helpful book about the nature of interaction with our children, the daily exchanges and the big picture, how different parenting styles impact your child's perceptions, behaviors and self esteem from an early age.
- "Children Believe Everything You Say: Creating Self-Esteem With Children" by Jennifer Day. Yes, it's true, children believe everything you say. You can help compensate for some of the things you've said and later wished you hadn't by making good use of the fun and truly usable exercises in this book! Children love stories, and this book is packed with interesting folk tales that illustrate the positive and help children understand the incredible depth and breadth of human emotions. The exercises in this book are engaging and fun, even for older children, and can even provide you with tools for improving your own self-esteem. After all, it's never too late for a happy childhood.
- "Building Moral Intelligence: The 7 Essential Virtues that Teach Kids to Do the Right Thing" by Dr Michele Borba. One strong characteristic of morally intelligent children is that they are empathic and concerned about others. An important point to remember is that while our kids are born with the potential for empathy and generosity, those traits aren't guaranteed. Researchers have discovered that a strong commonality of those kids who acquire them is how they were raised. That means parents can be enormously influential in helping their kids be concerned about others' needs by prioritizing it in their homes. It's a slow, gradual evolution, but if you are consciously boosting those traits as a parent now, chances are much stronger you'll have success and your child will develop those traits.
- "Life Strategies for Teens" by Jay McGraw. This funny, straightforward guide helps teens steer rather than drift in life, dealing honestly with topics from peer pressure to TV addiction with the underlying mantra, "Don't like it? Change it." It makes a lot of sense, and if a teen took even a few of these lessons to heart, he or she would be more in control than most adults. Great reading for an adult too, to better understand and relate successfully to their child.
- "The Soul of Education: Helping Students Find Connection, Compassion, and Character at School" by Rachael Kessler. Public education has been having a rough time in the United States lately, and has reached a crisis point in many parts of the country. Debates over school vouchers, prayer in the classroom, and other 'educational' issues often overlook the people who are suffering the most in schools these days: the children. Children need encouragement and guidance in struggling with the deeper meaning and purpose of life in a society that glorifies the material over the spiritual. Kessler offers a practical and inspiring guide for parents and teachers to help students open up to their inner lives while at school.
- "The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two" by Martha Sears R.N. & Dr. William Sears M.D. Attachment parenting is a gentle, reasonable approach to parenting that stresses bonding with your baby, responding to her cues, breastfeeding, 'wearing' your baby, and sharing sleep with your child. For those parents who worry about negative effects of this attention, the Sears say, "Spoiling is what happens when you leave something (or some person) alone on the shelf - it spoils." The book features treatment of illnesses and infant nutritional requirements, and focuses on a baby's five needs: eating, sleeping, development, health, and comfort.
- "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last" by John Gottman. A lasting relationship results from a couple's ability to resolve conflicts through any of the three styles of problem-solving that are found in healthy marriages: validating, conflict-avoiding, and volatile. Numerous self-quizzes help couples determine the style that best suits them. Gottman points out, however, that couples whose interactions are marked by four characteristics - criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and withdrawal - are in trouble, and he includes self-tests for diagnosing these destructive tactics, as well as steps for countering them.